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Men and Women Differ in Seeing Hidden Talents and I Can Wiggle My Ears

What is your hidden talent?

I’d be willing to bet that the majority of women reading this had a first thought along the lines of “I do not have one.” I’d also be willing to bet that men reading the opening sentence had a prideful moment, knowing that their abilities to fart on demand, excel at a career, or believe that some “unique” skill in the bedroom elevates them from other men.

Which makes me think. Why is it that women, in general, are so dismissive of our talents? Why is it that even when resolved to not give into the self-flagellation that we’re so damn good at, we continue to doubt ourselves?

While I am not able to fart on demand, I can burp on purpose.

I’m good at my job.

And I’m The VeryBest at Tuckering Tucker.

It’s too easy for too many of us to diminish our talents with a subheading. The Headline, I suppose, reads something like this:

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Even while proud of something, we know that we could have, and should have Done More.

Been More.

Why is that, and what can we do to change it? Why is it so easy to take pride in something that we do, and immediately dismiss it, “knowing” that somebody else is better? That we are the ones in the wrong? Why? Is it genetic?

I know men who do this as well. But women seem to do it more. I know men who are too proud of themselves for doing not much. And others that do more than the world will ever know, and never speak of it.

It’s hard for women to admit that we are talented and amazing. It’s even harder for us to believe that we are.

So, although it goes against my very insecure and doubtful nature, I’m going to remind myself, and maybe possibly you, too, that all of us, with our myriad of imperfections and ugliness and unworthiness are actually good enough. That, when it comes to the flawed humanity of humanness, good enough just is.

We are all good enough at being ourselves.

We’re good enough friends, good enough parents, and good enough at our jobs. We’re good enough at managing our time (meh), our lives, and our spirits.

Don’t you think, that those to which we compare ourselves to, also feel the same insecurities, and wonderings? They, too, feel the same “others are better than I am” thoughs.

Could we do more? Yes. Do we need to? Yes.

Should we get on our knees and begin more self-hate because, once again, we flunked Being Perfect?

I say no. I say, why not look at why it is that we’re neverever enough, and look at the ways in which we are. Even when they’re silly, dumb, unimportant, and insignificant. Even when they will never garner us fame, or a paycheck.

I say, let’s celebrate the meness of being me. The usness of being us.

Obviously, while typing my original response to today’s sentence, I had lofty goals of delving into the personalities of men and women, of reminding you that semi-overweight men still see themselves as football players while semi-overweight women see themselves as failures lacking willpower, but that’s been done. And…well, I started thinking about Hidden Talents. Turns out, there are a few of them that I’m proud of and I’d like to share them with you here.

I should say that I had originally planned more for this post. However, as always (!! a hidden talent???), I waited until the last minute.

Tonight, though, my last minutenes has a great excuse. I spent a while with Tucker practicing how to say his name. And made progress. HUGE progress. More on that later but I’m like, all giddy and bigstuff right now. Which means? I’ve got a hidden talent, and while I don’t always know what it is, it is mine. It is me.

Tonight’s Finish the Sentence Friday post was “One of my hidden talents is…”

Finish the Sentence Friday

Your Finish the Sentence Friday Hosts:

Janine: Janine’s Confessions of a Mommyaholic
Kate: Can I get another bottle of whine?
Stephanie: Mommy, for Real
me: finding ninee


by Kristi Campbell

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  • Janine Huldie - Your hidden talents are definitely all yours and kind of jealous, because I have to admit I always wished I could twitch my nose like Samantha on Bewitched and your nose trick is pretty damn close! But seriously, you totally made me smile getting to see and hear you tonight, so thanks 🙂February 20, 2014 – 10:05 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - HAHA to twitching your nose like Samantha. Man I loved that show!! By the way!!! My uncle was in it, I think. I need to ask about the family history, again….February 21, 2014 – 10:18 pmReplyCancel

  • Rachel - You are absolutely good enough and perfect and talented. I’m very happy to have even more reasons to think so after seeing your vlog. xoFebruary 20, 2014 – 10:16 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Aw thank you huge. HAHA to the vlog. Dumb, but you know, we should be proud of the dumb stuff.February 21, 2014 – 10:25 pmReplyCancel

  • Mike - ARGH!!! I just lost another huge long, WONDERFUL, comment AGAIN because I hit one wrong key in the Email* field/Enter and it loses the entire thing vs saving what has been drafted!!! Oy vey… For starters a huge congratulations on the success with Tucker and his name! That put a huge smile on my face! You’re experience of women being dismissive is far different than mine…so that was interesting. I see them as being completely the opposite. You have a special gift in that you can send a warm vibration to the intended person at the right time and likely not even be aware you did it. I know because I have been one of those recipients. You are such a blessing to us and thank you always, Kristi! 🙂February 20, 2014 – 11:17 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Mike,
      That’s interesting to me that your experience with women is the complete opposite. Me, and most of the women I know are so easy to dismiss being good at anything. Perhaps, the one(s) you refer to are hugely insecure, mean or otherwise assholes? Because really, the best women that I know, even those with the most powerful of jobs, feel insecure and never good enough. Ever. Tell me more.February 21, 2014 – 11:22 pmReplyCancel

      • Mike - Hi Kristi! Possibly I misunderstood or something? I read your post again. I again focused on the word “dismissive”. In my experience I’ve met many women AND men (myself included) who are dismissive of their talents…hidden or not. Agreed there with you totally. At the same (since it was directed at women) I’ve also known many women who are not dismissive in a very self-confident way about certain talents – i.e. their artistic ability, photography, expertise on their blog theme/message, cooking, writing, etc. Some of them have been long time friends and others I’ve ironically come across the past couple of years in blogs. I forgot to mention this the first time – awesome Chipmunk voice! 🙂February 22, 2014 – 3:07 amReplyCancel

        • Kristi Campbell - HA thanks for the shout out to the Chipmunk voice, Mike. I guess I know some women who are very self confident but not many, and the ones that I do know, always seem to shrug off compliments and their talent a bit. Does that make sense? Maybe I was just confusing!!February 22, 2014 – 5:16 pmReplyCancel

  • Sarah - Oh, so very, very impressed!February 20, 2014 – 11:32 pmReplyCancel

  • donofalltrades - Hi Kristi, what a wonderful post! You are so beautiful and your talents are amazing! I’m glad to hear Tucker saying his name. I hope next time you’re in Target he starts saying it so it sounds like he’s saying Fucker, because that’s funny.

    What else? There was something else…Well, it’s trash night so I have to go take the trash out now. Damn, I really did have something else to say but I completely forgot! I hope you win FTSF this week! I vote for you!February 20, 2014 – 11:48 pmReplyCancel

    • donofalltrades - 13 clicks to get to this box in order to start typing this comment. Just saying!!

      I remember what I was going to say now. Ninee?? Like 9E?? Really? I’ve been pronouncing it Neenee this whole time! Tell Tucker he’s saying it wrong so I don’t have to adjust. I hate change. Have a great weekend.February 21, 2014 – 9:41 amReplyCancel

      • Kristi Campbell - If it took you 13 clicks, you are the dipshit one.
        And yes. 9E. Thanks for noticing after we’ve been blog and book friends for like a fucking year now. He’s saying airplane finally so call it what you need to, for your own promotions. He ain’t changin’.
        Oh and HI DONNY thank you SO MUCH for coming by!!! I so totally appreciate your comment and loveliness and your just complete unique you,

        ….

        douchebag. Said in the fondest of loves ways, of course.February 21, 2014 – 11:34 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - thank you so much, my lovely friend Don of Jackass of trades. I cannot tell you how much I appreciate your encouragement to me getting Tucker to speak, your words, your loyalty to this blog, and to the word Fucker. I totally won FTSF this week. Only because you were too On the Rag to play.February 21, 2014 – 11:31 pmReplyCancel

  • linda Atwell - Out One Ear - your hidden talents are amazing! I especially enjoyed the talking in helium voice but I was also fascinated with the nose and ear movements. You could be like a ventriloquist for nose and ear movers!!! I can hula-hoop. Still. And I’m 55. And I can do a whole bunch of tricks with a hula hoop. And I was tempted to do a video too, but then I couldn’t get anyone to film it, so you just have my word. I’m a pretty darn good hula-hooper and won a trip to Disneyland (once. a very long, long time ago) for being so good.
    That’s all from me.
    Happy weekend to you.February 21, 2014 – 12:56 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Ha, Linda, I think amazing may be a bit too powerful but thank you and yeah, I’m especially proud of the helium voice as well. I guess I missed my calling!! And OMG you SO HAVE TO post about winning a trip to Disneyland for your hula hooping skills!!!February 21, 2014 – 11:35 pmReplyCancel

  • karen - I am still so embarrassed about last week. that is what happens when I read posts when sick and exhausted…sorry.

    Now for this week, I love your talents…the thumb wiggle is freaky but cool…I can not wiggle my nose or ear unless my face moves with it…

    I agree with you, we are good at what WE do…we know your kids, our routine, our family and only we can rock it.February 21, 2014 – 6:26 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - WAIT. DO not (please) be embarrassed about last week. A totally understandable mistake okay!!! And yeah the thumb wiggle thing is weird.February 21, 2014 – 11:42 pmReplyCancel

  • elizabeth bradt - I think Tuckering Tuck is the best talent! I become friends with a woman who has a 5 year-old named Cam who doesn’t have a specific diagnosis, but she calls him a sensory mess and swears he’s on the spectrum near Aspergers. But watching her mother him is beautiful. It is definitely a talent. She anticipates potential problems and guides him through the day just the way he needs it. This is nothing short of Mommy talent. It’s just the way you Tucker Tuck, I’m sure!February 21, 2014 – 8:05 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Aww Elizabeth, thank you so much for getting it!! I love that you’ve become friends with Cam’s mom and that you can remind me that I’m doing what I’m doing, and her, what she is, while being so amazingly your awesome self. You ROCK. and I adore you.February 22, 2014 – 12:11 amReplyCancel

  • Tamara - Purple sweatpants! Whooooo! And I will often tell people about local photographers who are better than me. And writers.
    I can turn my ankles backwards, though, and I’ve never seen someone who can do that better than me!February 21, 2014 – 8:45 amReplyCancel

    • Tamara - Sweat SHORTS, rather.February 21, 2014 – 8:47 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I guess we all tell local everybody’s why Others are Better and Better than we are. They’re not. They’re just peopling.February 22, 2014 – 12:13 amReplyCancel

  • christine - Oh how I enjoy a good Kristi vlog!
    First, yay for Tucker making progress on his name!
    Second, I see your weird voice less helium and more Natalie from Facts of Life.

    Your creepy hand/finger thing is just…creepy.

    Hidden talent of mine? I can pick up just about anything with my toes.February 21, 2014 – 9:46 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - HAAHAH to Enjoying a “good vlog” – maybe, one of these days, I’ll make one. See? THERE I GO> ugh. Do tell, about the toes thing, because me, too, but I was too afraid of grossing everybody out.February 22, 2014 – 12:23 amReplyCancel

  • Kerri - HOLY CRAP!!! This is the exact reason why I skipped FTSF this week. I had no talent. I mean not one I could think of. Now if the sentence was….I really suck at or I am an epic fail because….I could have rocked those. But this one? I cannot find one thing to brag about.

    I adore you. I love this post. I love that you take my fears,thoughts and dreams and do such a great way of explaining what I am going through.February 21, 2014 – 10:08 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Kerri,
      Seriously? OMG How weird is that? I know what you mean about it being so much easier to say the ways in which we utterly suck. Which is really sad, right? I adore you right back, my fabulous multi-talented friend. Big.February 22, 2014 – 4:05 pmReplyCancel

  • Nicole @ Work in Sweats Mama - Women should definitely channel their inner dudes and shout our awesomeness from the rooftops! Without apologizing for it.February 21, 2014 – 11:03 amReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - Love this! I agree and I don’t know what we as women find it so hard to say we are good at something – anything – without following up with a “but. . . “. I like your talents – that tongue thing is cool. Everyone in my family can roll their tongue – except me. Supposedly, it’ genetic. Anyway, great post and YAY for Tucker!! (And you!)February 21, 2014 – 11:13 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Here’s to us bragging about our awesome (weird) talents and not saying “but…” Lisa! And I remember how surprised I was when I found out that not everybody can roll their tongues. So weird. I don’t know anybody else who can do the foot thing though.February 22, 2014 – 4:09 pmReplyCancel

  • That Girl Ryan - Such good points, that is the first thing I said when i saw the prompt…i have no talents. lol. Woman are such losers sometimes, we gotta step it up.

    The video- The fingers creep me out. FYIFebruary 21, 2014 – 11:26 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - We totally gotta step it up, Girl Ryan. Yeah, I can see why the fingers would creep you out. Sorry ’bout that.February 22, 2014 – 4:09 pmReplyCancel

  • The Dose of Reality - Love your mullet outfit!! Bwahahahahaha! I don’t know if it’s a hidden talent, but I can make anyone stop hiccuping. People always seem like they think it won’t work, but it works EVERY.SINGLE.TIME. I even taught my kids’ school nurse how to do it because she didn’t believe me!

    (and why IS it that women are so damn hard on themselves? We are 100 times harder on ourselves than we would be to others. GAH!) –LisaFebruary 21, 2014 – 12:09 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Hehe thanks for appreciating my mullet outfit! But um HELLO you now need to tell me the hiccup trick. Please? And here’s to being nicer to ourselves and recognizing our kickass talents!February 22, 2014 – 4:10 pmReplyCancel

  • zoe - oh my GOD… we are sistas from different mistas…I can do that stuff too!!!! I cannot do that way cool thing with my voice though! or the tongue thing…mine is boring and only rolls…there was something else freakishly cool… I can do Billy with my eyebrow…I used to think these made me freaky ….now Im all proud cuz you were so adorable on that vid!February 21, 2014 – 12:30 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - WHOOOT to being sistas from different mistas, Zoe! Your Eyebrow Billy sounds freaking AWESOME. Own your freakishness, you. Practice the voice thing. I’ll bet you’ll be able to master it in no time. And then you can vlog about it! 😀February 22, 2014 – 4:12 pmReplyCancel

  • Katia - I love, love, love where you took that. This is such a great observation and so many different articles and posts I’ve read through the years flashed through my mind as I was reading this. The part about “there’s always someone else who is better” made me think of an article I once read about how we, as women, are almost programmed to deflect compliments and to always respond with “yes, but…” pointing out why things are not as they seem. Another part made me think of another very insightful post I once read written by a mom who discussed how despite having huge body image issues she deliberately made the decision to not smirk or say something self-deprecating or even pull away instinctively if her daughter touches one of her “fat” parts to teach her daughter that there’s nothing wrong with different “non-perfect” body types. Last minute writing is definitely a talent of yours. This turned out beautiful.

    Oh, and congratulations on making such great progress with Tucker saying his name. That puts everything else in perspective.February 21, 2014 – 1:22 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Katia. We really do deflect compliments, feel unworthy while knowing that other people are better at the things we’re good at. I love the idea of not even flinching when somebody touches a fat part (especially a child you’re trying to teach that the important stuff is on the inside to).
      And thanks for the congrats on making progress w/ Tucker saying his name. It really does put so much in perspective and I appreciate so much that you see that!!February 22, 2014 – 4:14 pmReplyCancel

  • Stephanie @ Life, Unexpectedly - I bet burping on purpose can come in handy.. I know my kids would appreciate some thing like that 🙂 Have a great weekend, Kristi!!February 21, 2014 – 4:56 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Stephanie, I think my brother taught me to burp on purpose when we were kids. 😀
      You have a great weekend, too! And thanks!February 22, 2014 – 4:15 pmReplyCancel

  • Sarah | LeftBrainBuddha - Yes, we need to be better about embracing our talents, claiming our awesomeness, and not feeling like we have to apologize about it. You are an awesome you! {i loved the headline… so true!}February 21, 2014 – 4:59 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Sarah! We are all awesome uses!! (Hm. Us’s??) anyway CHEERS to us claiming our awesomeness!February 22, 2014 – 4:16 pmReplyCancel

  • Dana - Of course your writing was insightful and meaningful and all that, but I am immature and it’s Friday night and I just wanted to be entertained by your amazing hidden talents. I am super impressed, and a little grossed out by the fingers and tongue. If you, Lisa, and Tamara all get in the same room and show me your talents, I may get a little nauseous. But I’m still super impressed!February 21, 2014 – 5:44 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - HAHAH to me, Lisa, and Tamara all showing you our hidden talents and grossing you out. That sounds like fun actually!! KIDDING. I’m nice. Mostly. Sorry I grossed you out. Mostly.February 22, 2014 – 4:17 pmReplyCancel

  • Ilene - I think that your no-so-hidden talent is making me think and feel at the same time and for stepping back from my screen after reading you and going, “wow” there is so much truth in what Kristi just said. And this post is no different.February 21, 2014 – 6:02 pmReplyCancel

  • Celeste - Great post, and I love your mullet outfit. New reader 🙂February 21, 2014 – 6:18 pmReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - First off – love that your hidden talent is you. Doesn’t it feel good when our kids accomplish something that you worked so hard helping them with. That’s a wonderful reward. Side note: I had no success with getting Christopher to boo boo in the potty. So he went to my parents for a week and mom calls to say that granddaddy got Christopher to boo boo in the potty. I was really excited that potty training was over but at the same time I was like “Really? and HOW long have I been working with him?”

    That was a serious side note.

    Love the video!February 21, 2014 – 7:05 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I’m giggling over the side note, about Christopher and the potty! Tucker’s teacher basically got him to pee in the potty and while part of me was really glad, and grateful, part of me was annoyed because when I tried, it was like having a puppy in the house.
      Thanks, Kenya!!February 22, 2014 – 4:24 pmReplyCancel

  • Jennifer Steck - Your post hit home for me, Kristi. I don’t know how long it took for me to decide what I’d write for my hidden talent. I just couldn’t think of anything other than things I couldn’t do. Sometimes I need a little encouragement and you sent it my way. Thanks!!February 21, 2014 – 7:17 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Jennifer, isn’t it awful how hard it is for us to think of what to write? I almost considered skipping FTSF this week because I couldn’t think of something I’m good at! We women folk really need to be better at recognizing how special and unique we really are.February 22, 2014 – 4:25 pmReplyCancel

  • clark - I guess I have one less hidden talented than I thought, when I sat down here at my typtrolla…. oh well, sorryFebruary 21, 2014 – 7:45 pmReplyCancel

  • Marcia@ Menopausal Mother - This is sooo true, Kristi! I think women in general suffer more from low self esteem—I blame a lot of that on the media. On a lighter note, my hubs is very proud of his special talent—burping the entire alphabet. He can even fart on command. I’m still trying to find my hidden talent–unless I get total credit for eating an entire jar of Nutella in one day….February 21, 2014 – 8:42 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Marcia, I think eating an entire jar of Nutella in one day is a great hidden talent. I mean, that takes dedication and commitment. Your husband can burp the alphabet? That’s way impressive. And yeah, it’s sad that our self esteem is so hammered by the media and stuff. Really.February 22, 2014 – 4:31 pmReplyCancel

  • Sandy Ramsey - I was sitting here reading this and yelling ‘Yes! Yes!’! No matter how much I do every single day, I always feel like I have fallen short. This is a great reminder to cut it out. I work very hard and I may not earn a paycheck for what I do…only because no one could afford to pay me for it all! The video is priceless, the finger thing a little freaky but I think it’s awfully cute that you can wiggle your ears!February 21, 2014 – 9:18 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Sandy,
      Isn’t it awful how easy it is to feel badly about ourselves, even knowing how much we did accomplish each day? It’s so much harder to see the stuff we did well than the stuff we didn’t get to, or did in a less-than-perfect way.
      Thanks so much!February 22, 2014 – 4:42 pmReplyCancel

  • Meredith - That’s SO true!! Men are so quick to pat themselves on the back and women are so quick to tear themselves down. It’s sad, really. When, obviously we are superior anyway. 😉February 21, 2014 – 11:35 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - We are so totally superior anyway! We should remember that more often!February 22, 2014 – 4:50 pmReplyCancel

  • Michelle Knopp - Very insightful. I love your sad but true perspective. Us women, don’t give ourselves enough credit.February 22, 2014 – 12:39 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - We really don’t give ourselves enough credit. Here’s to us trying to appreciate ourselves more!February 22, 2014 – 4:54 pmReplyCancel

  • Christina Morley - Those were some fun hidden talents! I bet you could use some of those talents as a kid to get yourself “cool” status. 🙂 My husband is so refined, not like those guys you mentioned who think farting is a talent. Hahaha! Enjoy your weekend!February 22, 2014 – 1:00 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - HAHA to the “cool” status. I used to use the voice a lot as a kid, and it definitely got some giggles. Not sure I was ever actually cool though!!February 22, 2014 – 4:55 pmReplyCancel

  • Beth Teliho - You’re so spot on with the gender differences of processing “talent”. I never really thought of it that way before, but it’s true.

    Okay, your video is awesome. How did you link it? Is it on YouTube? I tried ALL FRIGGIN MORNING to get a video of me making the veins in my hand wiggle like a snake, and it wouldn’t download in my blog. But it was a vid from my phone. oh well. someday I’ll figure it out and you’ll see this amazing talent. 🙂February 22, 2014 – 4:27 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - It really is true! We’re so easy to dismiss what we’re good at as being “nothing special” or simply by knowing that somebody else can do it better.
      OOOH you can make your veins wiggle like a snake? Yes, in You Tube, you can just click “record” then save it to your you tube (you need an account) and then you embed the code and voila!! IM me on FB if you want more deets.February 22, 2014 – 4:58 pmReplyCancel

  • Amber Day Hicks - I can curl my tongue too!!! I’m also trying to learn the hidden talent of telling someone off and them not realizing they have been told off until like five days later! (It’s a southern trait that my bestie has perfected without cussing, i’m gonna figure it out! Lol)
    XO ~A~February 22, 2014 – 5:32 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - You can curl your tongue? How cool are we then?? And your friend’s talent sounds awesome. Will you teach me?February 27, 2014 – 10:10 amReplyCancel

  • Crystal - Love your video!!! I guess my hidden talent is that I can almost use my feet like hands. Been doing this since I was little. LOLFebruary 22, 2014 – 6:56 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Using your feet like hands is awesome!! Like a monkey! And I love monkeys 😀February 27, 2014 – 10:10 amReplyCancel

  • April - I think women dismiss their talents because they feel if a hunch of people can do it, it’s not really a talent. Of course, I think I’m amazing in everything I do! No humility here. Lol.February 22, 2014 – 9:46 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - HAHA glad you know you’re amazing but yeah, I do think that women feel not unique enough, or something.February 27, 2014 – 10:11 amReplyCancel

  • Brittnei - This is funny and a new perspective. I actually think people come off to be very me oriented lol. I actually think with social media being so popular that it’s made people even a bit more narcissistic and given them platform to say “look at me, world! because I’m so great!” LOL. I can see what you are saying though. I guess I just never really thought of too many as being insecure in that way at all. On the other hand, I do read great blogs by people who acknowledge some good things they believe they are doing and talk about the bad or things they need to work on as well which, I think is pretty admirable. 🙂February 23, 2014 – 1:29 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - True, about social media, Brittnei, but to me, people saying “look at me look at me” is kindof a part of the insecurities. Like, they need validation from other people online that they are pretty/fit/fabulous/good/whatever.
      And I agree that it’s totally admirable when people write about the things they need to work on.February 27, 2014 – 10:13 amReplyCancel

  • Catherine Gacad - frankly, i can’t remember the last time any woman seemed unsure or dismissive of herself or downplayed her talents, yet all i hear about in the press is how women are so unconfident. it’s more perception than anything else. i think if we just stop talking about it, then we can really make some progress, instead of making women out to be these weak, unconfident creatures.February 23, 2014 – 4:23 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Catherine,
      You don’t feel like women accept compliments less easily than men do? I find so often, that even if I tell a friend that I like her outfit or something, that she will say something like “thanks, it’s really old” or “thanks, but I need to lose weight as it’s tight,” which feels like a dismissal of the compliment. I don’t mean to portray women as weak at all. I think we’re much stronger than men in a lot of important ways. But I do notice that I often don’t feel “as good as” even though I should. I’m working on it though and thanks for your perspective.February 27, 2014 – 10:15 amReplyCancel

  • Courtney Conover - You’ve posed a very good question here, Kristi. I have no idea why women tend to downplay their talents, but I’ll tell you what: I file this “issue” in the same folder as when women dismiss compliments given by others. Example:
    Woman 1: That dress looks awesome on you!
    Woman 2: Really? I don’t think so. It was laundry day and it was the only thing left that fit.

    Woman 2 just should have said “thank you.”

    I’ve found myself being woman 2 a lot until I finally realized that compliments are gifts and we should just accept them. Why turn a compliment into something bad? We deal with enough bad shit already…February 23, 2014 – 9:58 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I so agree that it’s so much easier to deflect a compliment than just say thank you, Courtney! You rock for having learned to just accept them. I’m going to try to do that, too.February 27, 2014 – 10:16 amReplyCancel

  • The Insomniac's Dream - I love the hand claw. You could couple that with the voice and do some really creepy shit for Halloween.

    Or something . . .February 24, 2014 – 7:40 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - HAHA to doing some really creepy shit for Halloween. Now, I’m already excited for Halloween. And it’s um. February. Thanks.February 27, 2014 – 10:17 amReplyCancel

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