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Better Opportunities, But A Worse Planet

I stand, washing out an empty bottle of hot sauce to prepare it for recycling, and wonder how clean it actually needs to be. “How do they get the paper label off,” I think, and “whatever gets the label off will surely get the leftover hot sauce I’m scrubbing by hand,” but I don’t stop, because maybe it doesn’t. 

I read that glass takes a million years to disintegrate. I think about this small glass bottle in my hands, and the trillions of similar ones sitting in recycling centers and landfills, and I become sad for this world, and for my son who may not have glaciers to visit with his children if things continue as they are. I want future generations to be able to stand on top of the world, and see snow there, even during summer months. 

Yes, Tucker’s wearing flip-flops because SUMMER is just down the mountain

As I watch Greta Thunberg’s speech, I feel hope for future generations. It’s people like her, and Emma Gonzalez and her fellow Parkland survivors who give me hope that one day, a mom like me won’t have to sit in her therapist’s office seeking solutions to stop catastrophizing about all of the terrible things that could happen. That are for-real happening. 

“These things weren’t an issue 100 years ago,” I think. And it’s true. In pioneer days, they weren’t buying new computers and smartphones and having to dispose of old ones. They probably made hot sauce from scratch and stored it in a container that’s reused over and over. They probably only had a few glass jars. They made their clothes, and weren’t contributing to deforestation by ordering online.

There weren’t lock-down drills at school, and new mass shootings in the news. Like, ever. They never had mass shootings. Parents had worries, for sure, but they weren’t afraid.

For these things, I yearn for the planet that once was. A shooting was something that happened only after you loaded up your gun with powder. Nobody had weapons that could kill dozens in a blink.

Landfills weren’t full of old computers and televisions, and everything was re-used because it had to be. 

Better Opportunities, But A Worse Planet

While I long for the days of a simpler, pioneer life, I also don’t. Back then, if a kid had two broken bones, he probably had his arm wrapped up, and when a bone became displaced a week later, nobody knew. They’d certainly not known how to put pins in that arm, or that without that particular surgery, the kid would have pain for the rest of his life.

Back then, women were lesser than men. Not that we’re not still working on it, but we can vote, and have jobs that pay us almost as much as a man in the same position. A person of color was likely rarely seen on the pioneer trail unless he or she was a slave. We’re still working on bigotry too as a world. On spreading the message that black lives matter.

We’re still working on a lot. I don’t want to go down a rabbit hole (again), but we have a ways to go with having children in cages. And so much more…

While I know my carbon footprint is much larger than a pioneer woman from The Little House On The Prarie days, I also know that my son (and most kids in the first world) have respect for women.

For life.

That when he was little and had two friends named Jeremy, that when asking which was which, he’d ask “the peach one or the brown one?” and both were equal. They remain so. 

So while I mourn for the burning on our planet, and the melting of glaciers, I also rejoice for the new awareness we seem to collect as caring humans. I rejoice at there being programs to help teach children with special needs. They’re certainly not perfect yet, but in pioneer days, I’m pretty sure kids with learning differences weren’t in school at all. Even in the 70’s and 80’s when I was a youngster in school, I didn’t know anybody with autism, Down Syndrome, or cerebral palsy.

I’m glad kids today know others with differences. They’re better for it.

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This has been a Finish the Sentence Friday post, using the photo prompt “Pioneer” provided by the fabulous Mardra Sikora.

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  • Lizzi - It’s so so easy to overthink and be overwhelmed and get hung up on every last shred of plastic and the growing anger that too few people ARE hung up on every last shred of plastic, and then give up (I did). It feels unstoppable.

    But I am so so glad that kids know kids with differences, and people understand more about kids with differences, and the world is a little emotionally and medically safer than it was, in many ways.September 27, 2019 – 3:04 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - It does feel unstoppable, but also, I do feel better with each little thing that I get more aware of, you know? Like, 20 years ago, I didn’t think anything about putting apples in a plastic bag and taking them home then recycling that plastic bag. I mean WHY?? I don’t use the bag any longer, and it feels like something anyway. But also, there aren’t enough options to not get plastic, you know? I mean, we need to buy food and stuff, and well, yeah. Ugh. I’m so glad kids with differences are more included now too. It is emotionally safer. That’s a brilliant way to put it.September 27, 2019 – 7:08 pmReplyCancel

  • Emily - Amen to your last line! I’m glad about that too…as for the other stuff, yeah I am afraid and I hate being afraid for my kids in this complex world. But, I do think if we focus on the positives of all the advances (medically and otherwise) since pioneer times, then at least we can continue to do good in the world too.September 27, 2019 – 6:51 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Yes! The world is better knowing more people with differing abilities for sure. I mean, my world and life is better knowing more about them. I’d never have known if I didn’t know… you know? I hate being afraid for all of us. But I do appreciate the advantages. I hope we can figure out ways to make our footprints here a little smaller for sure though.September 27, 2019 – 7:10 pmReplyCancel

  • Adelaide Dupont - Australian pioneer times were 1800-1880; including a gold rush in the south-east and mountain exploration and river exploration.

    This is when settlers and squatters learnt to appreciate the land they were in.

    One of my favourite pioneers is William Buckley who lived from 1803-1835 with Indigenous Australians – the people who have known and loved and treasured and respected this island continent for 65,000 years and continue to do so.

    Now we are technological pioneers and social pioneers.

    Also knowing something and knowing about something is different.

    Emotional safety is so important!

    Tucker: I have a peach Jeremy and a brown Jeremy in my life too. Peach Jeremy had red hair and loved his ice hockey and the environment around him. Brown Jeremy rode a motorcycle and is an engineer.September 28, 2019 – 2:59 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - We are indeed technological and social pioneers and are better for it in so many ways. I’ll have to look up William Buckley. And yeah, emotional safety is huge. Also, we love that you have a peach and brown Jeremy in your life, and that their equality is so apparent in your comment. Thanks. 🙂September 28, 2019 – 10:49 pmReplyCancel

  • Rebecca - This post had a lot of what I feel day to day about the waste we are basically forced to be a part of (like it’s purposely cheaper to buy a new whatever than to get it the current whatever fixed). Makes me sad how much stuff lands in our oceans and ruins our environment (and of course in turn affects whole species). Sucks. I reuse butter containers as leftover containers but then I get too many and start recycling them. I think we just need to be mindful of our own imprint on earth and try to lessen it for future generations. It’s still depressing when we hear how fast glaciers are melting and endangering polar bears and other creatures. (Deep breaths)
    I agree that the opportunities today are so much better than say, colonial times (ha- you know Brady is learning about that). As for inclusion and diversity, I’m a strong believer that for kids like Brady and Tucker, it’s life changing for them to be treated as equals in a gen ed classroom – to have the same learning opportunities as their peers.September 28, 2019 – 6:17 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - It’s so frustrating that it’s cheaper and easier to buy a new whatever than to fix the old one. Too much lands in places that can’t recover quickly enough from our damage, and I almost can’t think about it too much, because it’s so overwhelming, and it feels as though the little things we do will never be enough, but also, I know that doing the little things is what will matter. Like, Tucker is more conscious of it all than I am, which means his generation will be better I hope? Still, I hope he and his potential kids will one day still have glaciers.
      LOL to Brady and the colonial times – didn’t make that connection until you said it here. Gah. But yeah, being included is everything for all of us, in so many ways, right?September 28, 2019 – 10:52 pmReplyCancel

  • Christine Carter - What a powerful piece and important message you shared here, Kristi! I often worry so much about the state of our world and all the destruction and demise we are creating in it and to it. How will things be when our grandchildren are born? Oh, it’s terrifying to dwell on it all…

    But you’re right. There’s HOPE in this generation of strong voices that call us all to action and change! I’m holding on to that and believing that we’ll all somehow figure it all out.September 29, 2019 – 8:30 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I worry SO MUCH about it all, Chris. Probably too much. I worry about our grandchildren (and even our kids, because the ecosystem is collapsing NOW and will affect them…). Gah. But yes, there’s hope too. So much of it. I’m holding on to that, too, friend. Big time.September 30, 2019 – 9:09 pmReplyCancel

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