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Allieq - Great post Kristi! And it’s so true, we get caught up in our “problems.” I was at Cammy’s karate graduation tonight,and I honestly thought they were making too big a deal out of it (and charging me, cha-ching, for him to “participate”). Fact is, he’s the baby, I’ve been to so many “ceremonies” and mom was tired.

Then one instructor, from a different Dojo franchise, stood up before his class took the stage to say they were dedicating their ceremony to a family their Dojo had lost. It was a single mom, who had a child who had Aspergers. She killed her son and then killed herself. He broke down. I was in shock, but needed to hear that story, because they were asking for help for families who have special needs children. They went on to explain how…but you get what I’m trying to say. I will never feel put – out to attend anything for my children again. ANd I will help families who need respite, any way I can.November 19, 2015 – 10:17 pmReplyCancel

Vidya Sury - Even with third world problems where we’ve gone hungry some days and broke before the 20th of the month most of the time, when we are in a better place, we want to “give” in every way we can, Kristi. I grew up somewhat poor, but we always spared food for anyone who came to our door. Today, I am better off and I am doing all I can to contribute to making the world a better place. It makes my blood boil when people differentiate when it comes to who they help. We are all humans and that’s all that matters.

Thank you for such a wonderful post today. Turning the TV on these days is turning on the tears. But tears won’t help, action will. Very close home, our neighboring city is in floods and parts of the city are cut off because they’re practically submerged in water. So heartbreaking to lose lives and homes in an instant like that.

Hugs! Thanks again! Thrilled we’re cohosting together this week!November 20, 2015 – 1:59 amReplyCancel

JT Walters - Kristi,

I am going to dare to descendent from your opinion. The USA has third world problems that are hidden.

I have a sick child. No one helps us. As a matter of fact the government can not stand us. They hate us so before one more person is put in line to receive anything before my son who has been waiting for over a decade and a half….I say, “No, we have our own people, including veterans, who are not getting taken care of first. Obamacare is a huge part of the problem…everyone is covered who is too poor but because those who can afford to pay are refusing there is no access.

I agree with you five ways to aid hardship but charity begins at home and there are many parts of this country which qualify for third world country status.

As I sat in a waiting room of a major university hospital in Florida while my son who has been sick for over a month and has a rare disease. The Florida Department of Health refuses to care for medically complex children. You do not know hardship until you have walked that road alone. I did it while providing end stage rectal cancer care for my Mom alone as two oncologists insisted she did not need hospice and then when the finally did agree only a few days before she died the social worker screamed my Mother’s insurance didn’t cover it despite me citing the exact statute to her.

I was told we were, “Too poor for humanity!”

So at this hospital I sat next to this woman who had snot flowing from her nostrils which she wiped off with her hands. She was American and she told me she was in her early twenties. She not only had HIV but LUPUS and an upper respiratory infection as well. The government has cut back her food stamps and she can not get enough calories to survive. She was gauntly thin and African American.

America is a third world country now. It just is not for those the live and work inside the beltway.

Syrian refugees are not wanted in an of the other Arab States. One has to wonder why the USA, who can not treat it’s own people with humanity and compassion, would have any business taking anyone from any other country until our people are taken care of first including but not limited to our veterans who we ask to make the ultimate sacrifice and then they return to see Syrian refugees living better than veterans or Americans?

Idealistically, your thoughts are beautiful but realistically our government could very well see the country collapse into a civil war with the Clinton $500 million aid package to Pakistan while Pakistan protected Osama Bin Laden, refugees from Jordan, Turkey, Iraq, Iran, Somalia, etc getting welfare, housing, healthcare and free college educations that far surpass what is accessible to Americans and/or Veterans.

Refugees see America as the plaza hotel to have a lovely vacation at the expense of the people who have forged and served this country. God knows those refugees will all end up living as fat cats inside the beltway.

I am glad you has posed this question because it now is clear to me those who suffer outside the beltway mean nothing to those living inside the beltway. The only answer is to over populated, dwindle down all the resources of those living so richly in the third world to be sensitive to those of us outside the beltway living in the third world. When inside the beltway and outside the belt way look the same everyone will finally get it.

We have no business taking refugees when we can not care for our own people including our veterans.

Finally, you really think the water you are drinking is clean? How much do you know about water santitation. The people who sued PG&E would completely, disagree with you but most of them are dead.

I adore you but this and the 2nd amendment scream a serious nativity about the world we live in. The USA outside the beltway is a third world country. Actually, I have seen third world countries with better info structure, healthcare, educational systems. Americans and American veterans are treated like dirt. Until humane healthcare and a first rate of ducational system return to the USA, we have no business taking on refugees.

Taking on refugees during wars is a haphazard practice.

The USA needs to put Americans first!

Or the refugees live and work in the White House limited to only moving inside the beltway. And when there is an attack on DC, then the military stays home and Obama term is over. He is no FDR.

I love you but I love my neighbors who I see suffer everyday because of a collapsing government spending far too much money on war, sending young men home in caskets never to be Fathers. I have friends and family currently active in the military. We do not need another never ending war to keep bad incompetent weak “so called” leaders in office so they can line their pockets with money from defense or just cheat in the stock market buying before every government contract is awarded…..No More….No Thank…And you think Americans would be taken as refugees? No Way!November 21, 2015 – 4:05 pmReplyCancel

JT Walters - Ms. Atwell,

While I may disagree with the hostess of this sight, I would never personally attack one of its’ participants because I disagreed with them.

Kristi knows me well but for your edification, I haven’t traveled to other countries. I have lived in them. My information comes from living within the culture of those countries. Western Europe has had many historical critics of the USA including Salvador Dali. Tourists are always told they are loved. Live in another country, speaker their language and get back to me.

After 9/11, within minutes of the first attack, I shut the TV off. There are a few shows I will watch on demand but I do not watch any news stations. I caught glimpses of the Conneticut elementary school shooting and the Boston bombing because I was in places that tv(s) were on and noticed atleast one of the victims died twice. We have actors portraying the dead on tv so no thank you.

Speak for your own region of the country because each region is extremely different. I believe Oregon is famous for helping out the homeless. Go to Alaska and see how the homeless are treated or Florida? You do not live where I live. You do not know me. It is absolutely a thousand percent true that undocumented workers are receiving better benefits, kids are going to better schools and have unions in Florida that are illegal unions to encourage more undocumented workers to come here.

So maybe before you get your 50 stamps in your passport you should get to know your own country better. And maybe instead of attacking another parent of a child with special needs, that is a special kind of evil, you should try to empathesize and understand where that person is coming from? You want Syrian refugees to move here and take all your child’s social services?

You misconstrued, assumed and with vile disdain, not live, responded with contempt to another parent of a child with special needs to make yourself feel better.

Congratulations!

I feel sorry for anyone who gets a beeping helping of your love!

Per her hubs, I was kidding her and she knew that and that is why your post is filled with self righteous hatred. Great another hateful Democrat from Oregon named Linda Atwell who uses others blogs to be a complete jerk. Had you read my post, which clearly you did not, I said my Mother said it about dragging my son across the border and in Florida it is true but I guess from an Oregon view, who does not deal with the chainsaw beheadings of the Mexican drug cartels, ignorance screams.

As for your husband, you wouldn’t have to advertise if things were so great! No sale on you or him or your cause. Your post is the anti-marketing of your family.

Second Amendment must stay just for those who abuse the First.November 24, 2015 – 7:54 amReplyCancel