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Today’s Our Land was authored by the fabulous and wonderful Emily, of Oh Boy Mom.  I’ve recently mentioned her, but really, I cannot say enough amazing things about one of my first ever blog friends. She’s warm, funny, brilliant, gifted, and real. She writes about maintaing humor through motherhood, raising three boys, and, most recently, about her 9-year old […]

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  • Kenya G. Johnson - Beautiful Emily! You gave me goosebumps and brought tears to my eyes at Ava is hope. She has a beautiful spirit. Kids ARE resilient!August 13, 2014 – 9:58 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Kids really are resilient and awesome. Thanks so much, Kenya! I love this one, too!August 13, 2014 – 10:11 amReplyCancel

  • Janine Huldie - Like Kenya, i am now fighting back tears and thank you for sharing Ava’s story here with us today. Kids are definitely resilient and have seen this with my own kids when they hurt themselves (maybe not on the same level), but still does amaze me so.August 13, 2014 – 10:45 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Janine, thank you so much and you know, they are resilient and really, the same level doesn’t matter (I mean it does, but everybody’s here is still here and our own realities are our own and yes, resilience is resilience, if that makes sense!!!). It amazes me, too!!!August 13, 2014 – 9:03 pmReplyCancel

  • Dana - The human spirit amazes me, and Ava’s spirit certainly is exceptional. I hope it continues to shine – thank you for sharing your story here, Emily.August 13, 2014 – 11:37 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I agree that Ava is amazing and that so is Emily. Here’s to sharing pediatric cancer stories that are full of bouncing balls and hope.August 13, 2014 – 10:38 pmReplyCancel

  • Mike - Ok, now that I’ve wiped the tears out of my eyes temporarily I will hopefully be able to type a coherent response. This was incredibly powerful, Emily. We all have our own interpretation of life events and I try to see as many of mine from a spiritual perspective. I’m not a religious person whatsoever. The second I read the part about Ava bouncing down the hall to meet you on your first day it hit me in my gut. She’s an angel and an old soul. Meaning on a celestial plane. I truly believe in that and her energy and will to overcome and adapt is on one level. Her ability to express outwardly kindness, warmth and a sense of comfort is beyond reproach. We bless her so very much with right and perfect health in her journey. And in the same step we send as many heartfelt blessings to your son. Despite your difficult moments please always send him positive energy and believe in nothing more of his ability to heal and overcome this horrible deck of cards he was dealt far too early in his precious life. If he’s ever having a really rough day have him look up my Golden Retriever, Phoenix. He’s a cancer survivor. Love and blessings to you and your family. Thank you for sharing Emily and her story with us, Kristi 🙂August 13, 2014 – 12:49 pmReplyCancel

    • Emily - Thank you Mike for such a thoughtful and inspiring reply – it means a lot that you wanted to take the time to write your thoughts about Ava and kids like her and my son. I’m not a religious person either and I’ve struggled with how to deal with these challenges without having a place of worship and religious community to rely upon. It truly helps to know that people genuinely care and want to support us. I’m going to keep re-reading your words because I find them to be uplifting so thank you!! And Kristi, thank you so much again for sharing my post on your Our Land space…I am realizing that not only was I describing empathy for another child enduring an awful challenge, but I am receiving wonderful empathetic replies to my story too.:)August 13, 2014 – 4:01 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Both to Mike and Phoenix and Emily –
      (for the history part, Emily, Mike’s baby, who happens to be a Golden Retriever) battled a cancer that the doctors told him that he could not win, and yet, he did. He’s cancer-free. Am only mentioning that because I’m not sure whether the two of you are familiar with one another or not – if not, you probably would like to be because you’re both amazing and lovely and awesome).
      Mike, I agree that Ava is either an old soul or one just gifted with living in the now. I hope so much that it’s not her disease that has made her be the one to live in the now. My takeaway is that we never know anybody’s stories, that all of ours are amazing, and important, and REAL and right here, now. And that they’re all meaningful and important. Also well I love you guys. For real.August 13, 2014 – 10:43 pmReplyCancel

      • Emily - Aw thanks Kristi and love you right back! I did see from Mike’s response that he has a Golden Retriever who survived cancer…I am a HUGE dog lover so I adore that story even more! And Kristi, your takeaway is spot on.:)August 14, 2014 – 5:04 pmReplyCancel

  • Tamara - Wiping tears away too. And I do read Emily’s blog regularly! She’s a fantastic writer.August 13, 2014 – 4:59 pmReplyCancel

    • Emily - Tamara, thank you for reading my post here and for being a regular reader of my blog too. 🙂August 13, 2014 – 7:07 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - She so is. And I promise, that you are SO NOT screwed. You got this, mama. I swear.August 13, 2014 – 10:49 pmReplyCancel

  • Don - Whew, I thought there was going to be a sad ending and I was going to bawl! I can picture Ava and the type of kid she is and I love her already. Great read. Hope your boy is doing well.August 13, 2014 – 7:57 pmReplyCancel

    • Emily - Thanks Don and glad you enjoyed it and that I painted a picture of Ava that you can embrace…my son is doing well and is actually away at sleepaway camp right now! 🙂August 13, 2014 – 8:38 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I KNOW. Me, too. Here’s to the happyfuckingendings and life being better than we thought it may be!!August 13, 2014 – 10:50 pmReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - What an angel Ava was to you and, I’m sure, many others! The spirit of children is amazing and often much more resilient than adults.August 13, 2014 – 11:04 pmReplyCancel

  • My Inner Chick - We can all learn great life lessons from Ava.
    She is an angel on earth & she shall be one in heaven, as well.August 14, 2014 – 1:53 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I agree that we can all learn amazing life lessons from Ava and all the people who are like her!August 14, 2014 – 10:12 amReplyCancel

  • Out One Ear - Linda Atwell - A lovely story in the mist of sadness. Ava is inspirational. And so are you.August 14, 2014 – 2:46 amReplyCancel

  • K - So beautiful! Thank you so much for sharing this with us!August 14, 2014 – 9:41 amReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth - What a beautiful story. I hope all ended well and happily.August 14, 2014 – 2:33 pmReplyCancel

  • Rebecca - Gosh, this post is incredibly humbling and puts my whines in perspective. That Ava really is something but I can’t help but note that you are so strong and selfless yourself! I can’t wait to read more from you, thanks for changing my dayAugust 14, 2014 – 8:03 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Rebecca, I think this post puts all of our whines in perspective, but also reminds us that all of our whines are OURS and important. When we struggle, and grieve, and feel sad, it’s okay to do so – I don’t think the “but it could be worse” is helpful, until, well, it is helpful because it always can be, if that makes sense. Because all of our challenges are ours and here, in our homes. And that’s okay. But it’s also important to remember that we don’t know what the neighbors’ struggles are, if that makes sense!August 14, 2014 – 11:47 pmReplyCancel

    • Emily - Thanks Rebecca and I’m flattered in an odd way that my post had such a day-changing effect on you…I agree with Kristi’s comments and it sort of reminds me of that meme that is always floating around Facebook, which reads something like (I can’t recall the exact words): “Always smile at people because you never know what challenge they are facing.” It’s true!August 15, 2014 – 7:34 pmReplyCancel

  • Sandy Ramsey - Such a beautiful story about a true warrior. I know we all have our own struggles and our own issues and they are real to each of us. But Ava’s story can certainly put things in perspective. It sounds to me like Ava is doing what we should all do, ill or not, and that’s live the life we are given to its fullest. I don’t think I’ll be forgetting about this young girl any time soon. Thank you so much for sharing this.August 15, 2014 – 7:56 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Sandy, I completely agree that Ava’s story puts things into perspective. Here’s to all of us living the lives we have to their fullest!!August 19, 2014 – 1:27 pmReplyCancel

  • marcia @ Menopausal Mother - What an amazing little girl. As a parent, I cannot evenbegin to fathom what the family was feeling. And all the while Ava had a smile on her face through adversity. Incredible.August 15, 2014 – 10:31 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Marcia, I agree that she seems like one amazing little girl! Incredible, indeed.August 19, 2014 – 1:28 pmReplyCancel

  • Yvonne - Oh, what a lot you and your son have been through Emily. I think you are right that you will always remember Ava. People like her, who come into our lives at such difficult times remain somehow. Sorry this is so pathetic – I can’t find the words to say what I mean!
    I’ll just say I wish you and your son well, and that Ava also thrives.August 16, 2014 – 11:08 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Yvonne, I think I know exactly what you mean and it’s not pathetic at all. I think that Ava will remain for all of us who had the gift of reading about her amazing, bright self.August 19, 2014 – 1:29 pmReplyCancel

  • Brittnei - Oh my! Ava is so amazingly precious. It is also so hard for me to read stories like this. They tend to feel so personal like I know the people and they are in my life. She is definitely an example of hope for us all. 🙂August 18, 2014 – 2:23 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I agree about her being an example of hope for all of us and know what you mean about stories such as this being personal and affecting us deeply.August 19, 2014 – 1:30 pmReplyCancel

I cannot brag about ever having climbed Mount Everest, or finishing a refreshing swim across the English Channel. I don’t have a single triathlon medal, and am not a big runner. When it comes to the idea of running, I’m all for it. I imagine the exhilaration, the sweat, and the satisfaction that I’ll feel […]

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  • Don - Bed rest? What a wienie!!!

    The best part was the boobs in your face because, boobs. Lol.August 7, 2014 – 10:07 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Whatever. You grow a human in your um, parts, and push it out. Also, yeah, boobs. 😀August 8, 2014 – 12:39 amReplyCancel

  • Allie - Oh momma – I can’t believe you left me hanging. What happened in the damn closet? I am a runner, kind of. I think of some of the same stuff when I run and I have a bum knee and now a bum hip…but something keeps me plugging along.

    Sorry I didn’t participate. The only thing I could come up with was have the kids, but nothing original to add. SO I posted about their first day of school instead (for another link-up. so I guess I cheated on FTSF). But I’m going to but my thinking cap on for a sentence to submit!August 7, 2014 – 10:09 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - HAHA sorry Allie! That may need to be a story for another day. 🙂
      And I know what you mean about not being able to think of anything. I was convinced that I had nothing to write until about two hours before FTSF went live and then I was like “OH!” I hope you’ll think of something to submit! You could always write about how you run and don’t worry about your boob hitting you in the face??August 8, 2014 – 1:03 pmReplyCancel

  • Dana - Oh, Don – such a man. If only my boobs were able to reach my face. You forgot to add that your hands have created these awesome and funny drawings, Kristi!August 7, 2014 – 10:12 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - OOH thanks, Dana! I should have included that they are quite good at drawing really stupid-looking pictures!!! 🙂August 8, 2014 – 5:21 pmReplyCancel

  • My Inner Chick - Beautiful.
    Profound.
    Funny.
    Insightful.
    This post pretty much had it all 🙂 xxAugust 7, 2014 – 10:14 pmReplyCancel

  • Mike - To get this out of the way, I got a knot in my gut at the carrying your ailing dog to his final resting place part. I do love that you shared that though 🙂 The sentence…hmmm…the amazing thing my body has done is be blessedly relatively healthy (knock on wood) for my lifetime. Running. Argh! I ran in school but then stopped after I moved out. Having had knee surgery myself I get your pain, our friend! These days I save it for running to the fridge or when I’m leaving work to get into Phoenix’s Jeep and come home to him. And if a bear was running after me I would run. Oh wait, that is what you are NOT supposed to do! Ooops…cancel that last. I loved how you shared about holding Tucker and communicating to him that bad dreams can be sent away. Then about you holding your husband’s hand in labor and the connection to the inside and outside. That was AWESOME!! Another incredibly beautiful post, Kristi! 🙂August 7, 2014 – 10:17 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Yeah, I got a knot in my gut at that part too, Mike, and thought about taking it out, but Chief was a huge part of my life… Sigh. YAY to being healthy and have you ever heard that joke about the two guys who are being chased by a bear? They’re camping, and climb up a tree to get away from the bear. One guy starts digging in his backpack to find his sneakers (because he was wearing flip flops) and the other guy is like “Dude! You can’t out run a bear!!” And the guy putting on his sneakers replied with “Well, I don’t have to out run the bear. I just have to out run you.” HAHAHAH 🙂
      and thank you, Mike!!!August 8, 2014 – 5:43 pmReplyCancel

      • Mike - That is VERY funny, Kristi!!! That would totally be Phoenix as he was 100 yards, safely, ahead of me. Turning around to check, “Run you lard ass! He looks pissed! AND hungry! But, if he does eat you at least I get to sleep on the bed finally! Woo hoo!!” Man’s Best Friend 🙂August 9, 2014 – 12:43 amReplyCancel

        • Kristi Campbell - HAHAHAH and I have no doubt in my heart that Phoenix would totally fight a bear for you, and win. Because hello invincible.August 9, 2014 – 1:03 amReplyCancel

          • Mike - Yes, all kidding aside, he would protect me Kristi. Thank you 🙂August 9, 2014 – 1:22 am

  • Lisa @ The Meaning of Me - I love this! (Do I say that every time I comment? I’m such a goof.) But really it’s a great perspective because we women are all too often so hard on ourselves about our bodies. WTF.
    OK, now about the running thing – do you remember that episode of Friends where Phoebe and Rachel go running and Phoebe’s all CRAZY??? Yeah, I’m not even that graceful. 😀 hehee.August 7, 2014 – 10:24 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - You’re SO not a goof – you’re awesome and fabulous. And yeah, we are so hard on ourselves about our bodies. It’s really unproductive. I thought I knew every single Friends episode but now can’t think of that one at all. Must Google it. Thanks!!August 8, 2014 – 7:59 pmReplyCancel

  • jamie@southmainmuse - It a wonder how our fingers can peck out what is conceived in our brains and hearts. And those tireless mothering days. When we (or I am) are so very tired. Yes, our bodies are amazing.August 7, 2014 – 10:34 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Jamie, I know – it really is pretty awesome when you think about being able to convey emotion and grief and hope and happiness through our fingers. Thanks so much!!August 8, 2014 – 7:59 pmReplyCancel

  • April - Some of my friends double up on bras. I opt for paying more for a sports bra, because otherwise, it just means that I have more laundry to do! I love how my body comforts my babies and there’s no judgment of imperfections. But that’s not the route I took tonight.August 7, 2014 – 10:49 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Really? People for real double up on bras?? And I agree that our bodies being able to comfort our babies is incredible. Your route tonight was incredible and brave. More hugs. Because, no words.August 8, 2014 – 8:02 pmReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - Funny and Beautiful as always! I haven’t written for today because, honestly this prompt makes me cringe. I have a very hard time finding anything positive to say about my body. I’m mulling it over, tough, and might link up later today.August 8, 2014 – 7:52 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - It made me cringe, too, Lisa. Seriously, I put off writing about it until the very last minute because I had NO idea what to say. None. Also, I met you IRL and can promise you that you’re very very perfectly beautiful. For real.August 8, 2014 – 8:08 pmReplyCancel

  • Kerri - I love what you did with this prompt. I had no idea how to finish the sentence so I skipped and then read yours and don’t want to be a copy cat. But…now I might have an idea to play with. So thanks for that. However I am a little worried about what you could have done in a closet that caused a vortex.August 8, 2014 – 8:20 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Kerri, the closet vortex story is but one of many that will need to only be shared in person. I’m glad that you decided to play along with FTSF because I love your post!!August 8, 2014 – 8:09 pmReplyCancel

  • Emily - Beautiful post and I always love how creative you are with these prompts! And HA-love your ending.:)August 8, 2014 – 8:26 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Emily!!! The ending, I have to admit, was cracking me up a little bit!!!August 8, 2014 – 8:10 pmReplyCancel

  • Jessica - I love these responses, and how you ladies are thinking beyond athleticism to what our bodies actually do everyday. I think our society wants to celebrate the ninja warriors (though those people are really amazing) but we also need to celebrate the people who work hard everyday, and our connections. Also, I think I am going to end up one of those ladies who can only do water aerobics, because every joint on my body hurts from me beating it up (via hockey). My knee feels your knee’s pain! 🙂August 8, 2014 – 10:59 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - So right the the ninja warriors are impressive and amazing but really, it’s all of the things we do everyday, each day, without medals or any type of recognition at all that matter. I’ll totally do water aerobics with you! As long as it’s not too early in the morning, okay?August 8, 2014 – 8:13 pmReplyCancel

  • Michele @ A Storybook Life - Oh, HELL YES. Your body has done amazing things, and I’m so glad to see that you take the pride in them that you should! (And if you do manage to hit yourself in the face with your boob, well, that could easily count for another amazing thing that your body can do.) Love the cliffhanger ending — looking forward to getting that story in person!! 🙂August 8, 2014 – 11:17 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - HAHA Michele – in your “delicate state” that story may need to wait a little while. Or not. Because compression socks needs some comedic relief!! And here’s to our awesome bodies!!August 8, 2014 – 8:22 pmReplyCancel

  • Susan Maccarelli - Love it! I can definitely relate to the running play by play. #bloppiesAugust 8, 2014 – 12:51 pmReplyCancel

  • Rebecca - I was all set to begin swooning over the body talk, how you turned 2 into 3, used it to vocalize dreams, and then the vortex….HAHAH! That dang content! Too funny! You are cracking me up. With regarding to boozey skiing…I know no other way! LOL But geez, it’s always the damn knee with skiing injuries. PS. I loathe running and don’t try on sports bras either. People do that? Oops!August 8, 2014 – 12:52 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - YAY to cracking you up and re: boozey skiing? So glad I’m not alone. And yeah, always the stupid knee!!! I don’t know – do people try on sports bras???August 8, 2014 – 9:07 pmReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - I have a knee issue too. I didn’t come from skiing or drinking – it just showed up. It makes me have to choose sensible shoes and workout carefully. One of these days I’m going to have to work up the nerve to try a aqua spin class. Anyway love this post. Christopher has told me I’m the best pillow in the world because I’m so soft. When it comes to compliments like that, you think well a little fluff never hurt anyone 😉 I’m so glad FTSF lives on!!! Though we are sure to all stay connected, it’s “the place” where we all connected.August 8, 2014 – 1:45 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - UGH to knowing the knee problem, Kenya!!! I have to choose sensible shoes as well. In fact, I’m reminded of the very first post I read of yours – it was about how many black shoes you had and how “similar” yet different they all were!!! Wow. Was that really a year and 1/2 ago? Pretty sure it was FTSF, too.
      Yay to being the best pillow for Christopher and Tucker. You’re so right – a little fluff never really hurt anybody (I never did mind the little things!!!!).
      xoxoAugust 8, 2014 – 10:38 pmReplyCancel

  • Sarah - I just want to know how you managed such a put together postpartum photo. Seriously, look at mine. And that’s the best of the bunch.August 8, 2014 – 1:57 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Sarah yours is awesome!!!! Also? I was 40. It makes a first time mama glow. Trust me, and I know you’ve seen first-hand, I’ve not had another photo as good, since!!!August 8, 2014 – 10:41 pmReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth - I have always had this low level feeling that my body was my enemy, and I love the idea of thinking about it in a new way. Great topic, great post!August 8, 2014 – 4:05 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Elizabeth! I have a hard time accepting my body these days and liked the opportunity to remember that my son (and my life) don’t view it the same way that I do!!August 8, 2014 – 10:49 pmReplyCancel

  • Stephanie @ Life, Unexpectedly - Isn’t life itself amazing enough? Who needs to climb Mount Everest or swim the English Channel, if we look at our bodies as a micro-cosmos and what it achieves every single day! Thank you very much for this great prompt, Kristi!August 8, 2014 – 4:36 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks so much for participating, Stephanie, and you’re right. We don’t need to climb Mount Everest to get to the amazing.August 8, 2014 – 10:50 pmReplyCancel

  • Brittnei - Oh boo! I just found out you all were back today when I read you and Janine’s blogs. I will definitely try to be apart. I’m also joining the FB group. 🙂 I love love love how you shared what your body has done all these years. Very heart-warming. 🙂August 8, 2014 – 6:29 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Sorry Brittnei!! The code is open until Sunday if you would like to participate!!! And I appreciate the visit and comment. Glad to know that you will try to play along – I’ve missed you!August 8, 2014 – 10:53 pmReplyCancel

  • Yvonne - Kristi, this and all the other posts I’ve read in this hop are wonderful and you’ve inspired me to write one of my own. I wasn’t going to do a post today and have never joined in this hop before, but I’ve stayed up late to finish mine!
    Thanks for the inspiration.August 8, 2014 – 6:42 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Yvonne. I don’t have the words to say how honored I am that the incredible and beautiful and seriously blow me away post you wrote was inspired here, somehow. You did well. You win. Seriously. Thank you thank you and wow.August 8, 2014 – 11:03 pmReplyCancel

  • Katia - I can’t remember which one of your readers it was who said they loved the way in which you take them through an entire gamut of emotions in one post. I actually laughed out loud, as in “HAHA!” (all capped and with an exclamation mark) at the jogging rant with the angry knee and the fear of boobs knocking you down and then I went straight to that heart-clenched-really-tightly-in-a-fist type of feeling I often get when reading your posts. OMG, Kristi. I love you.August 8, 2014 – 9:15 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Katia my sweet now IRL too friend!!! Thank you thank you thank you so huge. I love you too, you. Big.August 8, 2014 – 11:05 pmReplyCancel

  • Courtney - I know I will hold your words in my heart as I get frustrated with my body for not working as fast as my mind tells it to during workouts. I love how you listed the many things your body had done, despite how you feel when you run. You have beautiful words and heart.August 9, 2014 – 12:02 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Hold it in your heart that you are so enough. Because you are. Whether you work out to the chatter in your head, or decide to not work out at all, and take a much needed break on the couch – your body is doing what it was meant to. You’re there. With your kids.
      Thinking about you SO MUCH. Sending hugs and prayers.August 9, 2014 – 12:16 amReplyCancel

  • Michelle - You crack me up! I can’t ski anymore, due to the fracture in my neck. Too risky. I learned as an adult so I’m not totally devastated but I am irritated to have a condition that limits me from doing certain activities. But anyhow, I think we all get frustrated with the limitations of our bodies. But our bodies all have done amazing things too.August 9, 2014 – 3:57 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Having ANY condition that limits us is what makes me feel old – and UGH to that!! You’re right though – they have done amazing things…August 9, 2014 – 7:51 pmReplyCancel

  • Echo - This is so beautiful! I never thought about my body like that. I mean, sure, I’ve thought about knee pain, flopping boobs (love the illustration) and the fact that I am out of breath at the end of the block. Yet, I never thought about my kids’ and how they snuggle into me for comfort. I love it.August 9, 2014 – 9:09 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - YAY to re-seeing your body as the amazing thing that it is. It’s YOU, here, now. Comfort and mamma-ing.August 9, 2014 – 10:47 pmReplyCancel

  • Shay from Trashy Blog - I LOVE that ending! Laughed so hard!August 10, 2014 – 5:36 pmReplyCancel

  • Natalie D - At first I was all, “yep, that’s my body when I run, then I was like, “aw, this is so touching!” then I snickered at the image you removed. So yeah, you took me through the range of human emotion. 😉August 10, 2014 – 11:47 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Natalie. I’m so glad I’m not the only one who feels like that when I run and that you went through the range of emotion!!August 11, 2014 – 7:19 pmReplyCancel

  • Anna - The most amazing thing my body has ever done is carried me three miles in the Grand Canyon in the heat of the day. It’s also amazing that I can climb a 5.7 with moderate effort considering how hard climbing is.

    Did You Know? Marching band gives someone the same cardio workout as a runner in the middle of a marathon.August 11, 2014 – 1:54 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Anna! That’s so awesome. You’re amazing and no, I had no idea that marching band gives somebody the same workout as a runner in a marathon!!! WOW.August 11, 2014 – 7:20 pmReplyCancel

  • becka - It is my one fear that I will be knocked unconscious when I run from my own boobies… it’s my excuse to not go running. 🙂August 11, 2014 – 11:01 amReplyCancel

  • clark - running… is there any other natural body function that creates such high expectations of enjoyment and satisfaction and results in such a let down? (no, not including that)
    I have tried, for similar reasons….the challenge of the ordeal of running, the hope for some of that endorphin shit, but talk about abstract benefit…. “hey baby check out my cardiovascular system… hot, non?”August 11, 2014 – 5:47 pmReplyCancel

  • Roshni - I always love your posts with the quirky cartoons!! Too bad you removed the self-incriminating photo!! 😛August 12, 2014 – 7:03 pmReplyCancel

  • Jennifer Steck - Beautiful, Kristi. Our bodies are so amazing, despite the fact that running is not our best talent. There are so many others. When things finally slow down, I hope to rejoin the Finish the Sentence Fridays. Thanks for keeping it going.August 12, 2014 – 10:52 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Jennifer! And I agree that our bodies are amazing even if running isn’t on the list of talents. I look forward to you rejoining FTSF. Also, I can’t wait to see photos of your trip!!August 14, 2014 – 10:54 amReplyCancel

  • Alison - Ooh, I love this, Kristi! Our bodies are truly amazing, if only we give them credit where credit is due, always.August 18, 2014 – 8:32 pmReplyCancel

Have you ever thought about the correlation between our past lives, and putting our children to bed? No? Ok well, I promise it’s not as freaky as it sounds. Tonight, I listened to my son say “Please don’t leave!” and grab my arm, and tell me “Good Job.” He told me “good job,” for staying. […]

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  • Kenya G. Johnson - So much to be thankful for! And it is is hard when we have to make the judgement call for their own good even though we would love to snuggle with them. Christopher is big for his age too – as of Friday officially 5 feet tall at age 9. Though he’s a little boy his almost man height – so yeah weird in the snuggle department. Glad you got a lot of feedback on the last post and received an well deserved apology.August 4, 2014 – 12:11 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Kenya, Christopher is five feet tall? Wow. That’s tall. Tucker is 1/2 an inch short of four feet tall and towers over all of his peers. My husband keeps thinking that will be good for sports later, but for now… well, not sure.
      And thank you! I was glad to have gotten the apology, too.August 4, 2014 – 4:40 pmReplyCancel

      • Kenya G. Johnson - Yes ma’am. You are probably in the same denial that I was that ½ short of four feet is FOUR FEET. When you get that official four foot measurement you’ll be like OMG. 😉 Christopher was 4’11 when school got in June.August 4, 2014 – 4:50 pmReplyCancel

        • Kristi Campbell - Of course I’m in denial! Him being so tall makes me want another BABY (and um, I’m 45). But hey – 1/2 inch short of four feet is still three foot something, right? 😉August 4, 2014 – 5:09 pmReplyCancel

  • Mike - This was absolutely spectacular as always, Kristi! I agree with “past lives” in that so very often how we were brought up with regards to sleeping with a parent correlates directly to our own childhood. Trust your gut and continue to follow it. As the old saying goes, “If it’s not broke, don’t fix it..” and what you are doing at this point is obviously working. Of course you will have some trepidation and questions…that is normal. That haircut is great and that’s cute on the no hug…Tucker knows the boundaries he’s comfortable with 🙂 I LOVED the Superman ride experience! That young man is his on young boy with an S on his chest and will only continue to fly off into amazing accomplishments!! 🙂August 4, 2014 – 12:30 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Mike! I just wonder if Tucker wakes up sad when I’m not there anymore, ya know? And I loved the Superman ride experience, too! (as did little man!!!) Appreciate the visit and the share, as always, sweet friend.August 4, 2014 – 5:07 pmReplyCancel

  • Janine Huldie - Aww, Kristi I truly agree so much to indeed be thankful for, especially the smiling face at the end! Seriously, he looks like he is flying on Cloud 9 and can tell you are doing more then something right here with Tucker more times then not. And also so glad you got that apology and definitely deserved it, but always nice when you do get it.August 4, 2014 – 8:33 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Janine, I LOVE the smiling face at the end! So awesome!! I’m really glad that I got the apology as well, and thank you so much!!August 4, 2014 – 5:08 pmReplyCancel

  • Tamara - Sorry if there are any typos here. My kitten is laying above the keyboard with her little paw draped down and occasionally typing.
    Weird.
    These are my thoughts, though. Not hers.
    The Superman ride is incredible. The woman being big enough to apologize you is incredible. Many people wouldn’t do that.
    You are incredible.
    I’m pretty good at kid haircuts too, by the way. So I can throw that into my deal of free photography and a free place to stay in one of the most beautiful places ever.
    Have I convinced you yet?
    “dkjalf” – Dinah the KittenAugust 4, 2014 – 8:57 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Aw, Dinah the kitten – you wily minx. I agree that the Superman ride is incredible, that getting an apology is incredible and that YOU are incredible. And you’re good at kid haircuts? Sheesh! The list of talents you have gets longer and longer and longer!!
      I’m almost all the way convinced.August 4, 2014 – 5:11 pmReplyCancel

  • Jennifer Steck - He’s flying, Kristi! Every bit of your hard work and his is starting to pay off. Those moments where he reaches out his arms and flies on his own, with a smile on his face, are incredible and inspiring. There will be more of those moments to come. Despite the struggles, he will be okay. That’s fabulous!!August 4, 2014 – 9:12 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Jennifer! He IS flying! My little baby (who is not very little any longer) – is flying. And brave.August 4, 2014 – 5:12 pmReplyCancel

  • Jean - You gave me something new to think about and gave comfort all in one post. Thank you. I’m really happy that woman contacted you- handling conflict with grace is hard but necessary.August 4, 2014 – 9:27 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I am too, Jean! Not an easy thing to do, I’m sure (I suck at apologizing). So happy to see your name here today!!!August 4, 2014 – 5:12 pmReplyCancel

  • Sarah @ LeftBrainBuddha - I love reading your words. It reminded me of how all the sleep books tell you NOT to fall asleep with your kids in their bed with them, because then they wake up in the middle of the night and freak out that you are gone. But the morning snuggles when they come into your bed (provided it’s after 6am)? Lovely. And your comment about guilt — I always remember something one of my colleagues said when she came back to work after maternity leave (and this was even before I had kids) — she said, “when I’m at home, my heart aches for work, and when I am at work, my heart aches to be with him.” That’s our world. xoxoAugust 4, 2014 – 9:38 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks Sarah! I suspect that this was too quickly written and rambling so I’m really glad that it reminded you of the books that say not to fall asleep with our kids because that’s pretty much what I was thinking about. Like, is Tucker sad when he wakes up and I’m not there??? And wow – that comment about aching for work while at home and aching for home while at work? Spot on.August 4, 2014 – 5:34 pmReplyCancel

  • Don - Hahaha, sneaking out of girls’ rooms was very challenging in all girl dorms where boys after midnight weren’t allowed, probably. Yay for the apology. Everyone learned something from the ordeal, hopefully. We’ve never let the kids sleep with us, but wife has spent a few nights in Gmans room because he’s been such a douche lately. I doubt it’s going to retard his development too much. Do what makes ya happy, or sane. Whatever.August 4, 2014 – 9:54 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - HAHA – we were actually allowed to have boys in our dorms, but if they wanted to take a shower, we had to put a sign on the bathroom door saying “Man in shower” so people wouldn’t accidentally see a penis if they didn’t want to or whatever. Since I didn’t like making signs, I just said “No, you can’t take a shower! Just get out!”
      And yeah, doing what makes us happy, or sane. Totes. Sorry Gman is being a douche recently. Probably, it’s your fault somehow.August 4, 2014 – 5:38 pmReplyCancel

  • Kerri - Oh my friend….I hate that your IRL friend had to have the “too physical” talk with you but so proud that you are able to process it and be okay with it. Until you are not but then you will have your village to make you deal with what needs to be dealt with. In a way that you are the most comfortable with.

    Even if it means sleeping with your boy. I love your analogies here. Cause I think you are so right. No one wants to feel like they are not good enough to cuddle. I think you have to do what feels right for YOU. Not Tucker or your man or what that freaking no good book says to do.

    Cause none of them are you, warrior mom extraordinaire who is one of Ellen’s favorite bloggers 🙂August 4, 2014 – 12:31 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Me too, Kerri. Me, too. Sigh. You’re the awesomest and I agree that nobody wants to feel like they don’t deserve a cuddle. I just wonder when I sneak out after he’s asleep if he wakes up bummed that I’m no longer there. That was the part that reminded me of college. Gah.
      🙂August 4, 2014 – 5:40 pmReplyCancel

  • Twindaddy - I’m a little conflicted on the sleeping thing, too. Baby C wants to sleep with me and, frankly, I want him to sleep in his own bed. But he wakes up in the middle of the night sometimes and throws the most horrid fit until I let him come to my bed. On a completely unrelated note (sarcasm alert), I’m totally drained and could fall asleep at my desk right now.August 4, 2014 – 12:37 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - TD, It’s hard, right? I mean, obviously we want them to sleep in their own beds, but when I think about later, going to say goodnight to my son and finding some note on his door that says DO NOT ENTER, and I’m going to be sad for these days when he actually needs me and likes me and stuff, ya know?
      And sorry you’re having sleep issues with Baby C. I hope you get it resolved so you can get some sleep too! Also, still waiting on your email to find out what happened and if you’re okay!August 4, 2014 – 5:42 pmReplyCancel

      • Twindaddy - Ohhhhhh….yeah. What’s your email addy?August 4, 2014 – 9:24 pmReplyCancel

        • Kristi Campbell - Um. How can I send it so it’s not here? Because gross reviewers and shit. OH! Can you do the contact me form (upper left, that little black worm there, if you hover over it, is contact????)???August 4, 2014 – 11:52 pmReplyCancel

          • Twindaddy - Okay! You should have it now!August 5, 2014 – 8:38 am

  • Emily - I love your stream of consciousness posts, especially because they make so much sense to me, even though you may cover several different topics in one post — that’s true talent! That is SO huge that the woman from BlogHer apologized and now I feel bad (just a little) for calling her a bi-atch. BTW, we got some really good guidance about telling our dude about his challenges, which we did not formally share (in other words, use THE words to describe his challenges) until he was 13. That felt like the right time for him/us and I believe each family’s situation is different. I’d be happy to talk to you about it, but only if you feel you want to hear someone else’s experience. I’m sure you already received lots of great advice about it…And also? I love seeing Tucker fly.:)August 4, 2014 – 1:08 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I felt kinda bad, too, Emily!! Seriously. It really was big of her to come and apologize though and I appreciate that a lot. Hopefully, it’ll translate to a better BlogHer mini-con next year for the special needs group. Seeing Tucker fly IS pretty awesome. And yeah, I’d love to talk to you about how you knew it was time to talk to Big Dude. I don’t think Tucker’s ready but he might be ready for the speech part – I think he notices more that people often don’t understand him, ya know?
      And thank you for getting the stream of consciousness post! I still wonder if it’s too rambly and too quickly written.August 4, 2014 – 5:45 pmReplyCancel

  • Brittnei - Whaaa? I’m so happy that woman came over and apologized and that you got so much support and help from other moms with your questions and concerns! Win Win! A lot of Tucker’s “things” you mentioned I can relate. JR is a little taller than some toddlers his age I’ve seen, but he’s started biting again, mostly when he’s hungry. I’m not loving it but we’ve been closely monitoring him and dealing with him. He isn’t consistently playing with any kids right now so the monitoring is just what he does with us and day to day which is different I guess.August 4, 2014 – 1:35 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I’m so happy that she came over and apologized as well, Brittnei, but not nearly as happy as I was to just read your wonderful news!! Congratulations!!! The biting thing is hard and I think all we can really do is monitor it closely. The thing about Tucker is that I honestly thought we were past it. Sigh. Oh well – just need to deal with it again I suppose.August 4, 2014 – 5:51 pmReplyCancel

  • Yvonne - Wow, Kristi, you do come up with some interesting perspectives. I had not thought of a connection between how I felt about boyfriends and how my children felt about waking alone when they were young. (Just knew that the older one wasn’t keen on it, nor on going to sleep alone!) I can relate to how you enjoy those early morning visits though. They stopped for us a while ago now.

    How great that you got an apology from that BlogHer woman. In so many ways it’s great – great for you, and also it must mean she’s thought about how she behaved and realised it wasn’t nice. So maybe she’s learning from it, and that’s good.August 4, 2014 – 3:55 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Yvonee, I think I actually need to rework this one. Not feeling awesome about it but really wanted to participate in TToT this week and well, it was late last night.
      I also think it’s great that the moderator apologized to me. Also? Going to rework this now. I think I missed the mark. But yes, here’s to her realizing that it wasn’t nice, and crappy, so that’s big good.August 4, 2014 – 10:15 pmReplyCancel

  • zoe - I dont know if I ever went back to your blogher post or not… either way Im glad the offender apologized and hopefully gained something from the encounter. I hope she has changed her view some… and might I just say about this post…. FLYING! THE MAN IS FLYING!!!!!!August 4, 2014 – 4:58 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I’m glad, too, Zoe. Big glad. And yeah, Tucker is totally awesome. Flying, and brave.August 5, 2014 – 12:08 amReplyCancel

  • Allie - So much to comment on…

    Love the “stream of consciousness:).” So think of my comments as stream of blah, blah…

    I write this, my youngest is in bed with me. We have been actively negotiating terms to finally get him in his bed, in his room, full-time! This never happened with the other three, but alas, he is my baby.

    I remember the first time my special guy finally sat for a haircut – it was in the last year or two (after ten years of OMG salon moments). I used to buy him McDonalds French Fries – because I knew he’d hold on to home and eat, and then I would tell the hairdresser to go asap, before they were gone and his hands were free. And of course, a DVD as well.

    I’m having trouble getting re-acclimated into my “real life” as well, after a busy summer. I’m also trying to exercise everyday, which is taking more time than I remember (it’s been 18 mos since I did it with any sort of regularity), and then I am exhausted and don’t feel like writing. Plus trying to get kids ready for school. And unpack…still.

    Okay…I will leave now. I love the carnival pictures!August 4, 2014 – 8:52 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Allie, thank you for loving the stream of consciousness because I’ve been feeling weird about it a lot. And dude, he’s your baby. It’s FINE. Whatever you do to make life as easy and as wonderful as possible is totally FINE. I remind myself of that all the time. My problem is that – if I let Tucker fall asleep while I’m there – will he wake up sad? Like some one night stand?
      Also freaking haircuts. I totally tried to fix his crooked bangs tonight and for real messed them up. He may now need a buzz cut!!! SHIT!
      Real life and blogging is HARD especially when busy. I almost feel like bloggers and writers should just take the summer off.
      Also? My suitcase from BlogHer is still on the floor of my bedroom.August 5, 2014 – 12:12 amReplyCancel

  • Michele - LOVE the pictures in this post! Flying! You are working through a lot these days – thank you for sharing how you’re working through them (& also a quick trip in the way-back machine to those college days!). I’m so glad you got that apology, too.August 4, 2014 – 8:57 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Michele – glad I got the apology as well and OMG I feel like I’m not working through them at all but just doing the stuff we all have to be doing, I guess. And eeep to college. xoAugust 5, 2014 – 12:14 amReplyCancel

  • Denise - Kristi, you be as stream of conscious as you want or need to be:)
    I feel as if I haven’t “seen” you in ages! Caught some BlogHer pics on the FB. Looks like you and everyone else had an excellent time and! you got to meet Little Miss Wordy!. I always enjoyed reading Leah’s blog. Need to get back there. After catching up with you first, of course lol
    As to the young man at the center of this piece? He is one very lucky kid. Tucker may not realize that now but he will:) There is something totally awesome about the Flying Tucker pic. What is captured in the picture is total….freedom, happiness, love, innocence, childhood….love it.August 4, 2014 – 9:51 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Denise, I guess I haven’t been around in ages, either. It’s been a crazy summer, with traveling, Tucker turning FIVE, and me not really linking up with TToT which is partly why this post is so um, brain dump… I wanted to link up!
      And yeah, there’s definitely something awesome about that photo. Freedom, self, summer, all of it. I still am so happy that he did it alone. I was going to go with him, actually but didn’t have enough tickets and asked him if he wanted to go by himself. He found a really cool kid to be next to who even got up to ask me if I was okay and whether I wanted to take a video. Some kids? They ROCK.August 5, 2014 – 12:18 amReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - This is the first summer I have had to juggle the work/kids thing and it sucks! That seems to be all I do. I work and I have kids coming at me all the time. I barely have time for blogging, cleaning, or anything else. I so want to soak up all this time with my girls, but all the other things weigh on me, too and the guilt builds up. That said, your little man is so handsome and happy in that haircut picture! And, I bet he loved flying just like a ninee! 🙂August 4, 2014 – 9:59 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Lisa, I hate the juggling. Hate it. I feel SO DAMN GUILTY when I’m at work, paying a sitter to take Tucker to fun places!! And? I feel so guilty when I’m at fun places (and even more guilty when I’m at stupid 100000 visited playgrounds) about not working. GAH>
      The guilt builds up for sure. Here’s to us letting go and enjoying whatever we’re doing? Is that even possible? And awwwww, love that you said “just like a ninee~” because, well, exactly. <3August 5, 2014 – 12:21 amReplyCancel

  • Aussa Lorens - The sleeping in bed is a tough one… I remember when I was little and there was a thunderstorm, I wanted nothing more than to get in bed with my Mom. At some point it turned into “Okay, you can lay on the floor next to the bed” but that didn’t seem nearly so effective.

    This comment is weird. Mostly I just wanted you to know that I came, I read, I think you’re a great Mom, I love that your community rallied around you when you spoke out about some not so great things that happened. Etc. Etc. Time for bed.August 4, 2014 – 10:40 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - FINE COME NOW when I have a stupid post up but yeah, you’re right that the sleeping thing is damn hard. You were on the floor next to your mom? That’s kindof awesome. I used to make my bed, and go sleep on the floor of my brother’s room, but um, well.
      I’m glad that people were awesome too. And I’m glad I got to meet YOU middle name chick.August 5, 2014 – 12:23 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I know, right? He totally flew and he’s totally well, yeah. Big Stuff indeed. I’m really happy for the apology as well and so hope that it makes a difference next year!!!
      UGH to the mine field. For real. It’s so dang hard to be everywhere we’re supposed to be and it’s even harder to be in the now when we are because all of the other stuff? It’s too much!!!
      And yeah, also. We are enough.August 5, 2014 – 12:30 amReplyCancel

  • Chris Carter - HE FLEW!!!! AND GOT A HAIR CUT ALL BY HIMSELF!!! Big. Stuff.

    And I love that you got so much support from that post- and an apology. Both needed. Too bad it can’t really undo that time spent in the session, but kudos to that person who needed to take responsibility.

    And yes- guilt over any choice, really. Time is unbelievably daunting… and playing with it with our choices sometimes feels like walking on a mine field. I know. I struggle with that too…

    And there is nothing that will ever ease that… but? Believing that we are doing the best we can with what we have and who we are? Is enough.August 5, 2014 – 12:02 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I KNOW!!! Chris!!! He so totally flew. And I know he will continue to do so and thank you for your awesome capitals and exclamation points. 🙂
      HUGE haircut stuff. And thanks – you – I’m really happy that I received an apology as well. Here’s to being enough, knowing that we are, and doing so. Mostly, the knowing that we are part.August 5, 2014 – 12:43 amReplyCancel

  • Roshni - Wow!! I’m so glad that she realized that what she said was wrong!!
    Tucker’s expression in the last photo is priceless..he’s really ecstatic!!August 5, 2014 – 1:01 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I was really pleased that she reached out to apologize and thank you! He truly was ecstatic!!August 5, 2014 – 11:37 amReplyCancel

  • Dana - An apology is awesome – I’m so glad you got one, and that she realized how her words impacted you.

    And completely unrelated to this post, I was looking at the LTYM videos yesterday – most (like mine) have 100-200 views. Yours? Thousands. I’m thankful that I got to see it in person.August 5, 2014 – 11:18 amReplyCancel

  • Kristi Campbell - Dana, I’m really glad that she apologized, too. I was really upset – hurt and angry. I think it was big of her to come here and say that she was wrong and that she’s sorry. Maybe it’ll be a step to making next year’s special needs mini-con better.
    And re: the LTYM video – it was shared on the Autism Speaks website, which is why it got some more views. It’s not because of you know – me, or anything.August 5, 2014 – 11:45 amReplyCancel

  • Rebecca - I can relate in more ways than one on this. Dylan has been sleeping in his own room since he was a newborn and now he is an “on my terms” cuddler. He kicks me out of his room when it’s bed time with a wave and “buh bye.” When he IS in the mood to cosleep, I don’t take the opportunity even though I really want to. And on another note, I want to be the one spending summer days with him but I’m at work. Babyhood, toddlerhood, childhood are the shortest times of their lives and I want to soak up every bit of it I can…but the real issue is I want to soak up every bit that I cant, too. Sigh. Dylan and Tucker are about 3-4 years apart but the physical aggression is all too prevalent right now. It’s so defeating and often times humiliating even though everyone around me justifies it with “oh he’s just a baby.” I feel your pain sister!August 5, 2014 – 12:05 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I so relate to your comment, Rebecca!! Tucker did the “nite, bye-bye” for a while but only recently has been wanting me to stay again. On one hand, I so want to stay because my little boy wants me!!! but on the other, I have to wonder if it makes him wake up earlier, looking for me. And yeah, I also get the guilt over work and wanting to soak up all of the moments. There are days when I’m beyond sad that it’s our sitter who is getting to witness the awesomeness of a splash pad, but also, when I’m at the splash pad, I feel guilty for not checking into work (I only work part time, and don’t feel AS guilty being as I traded better salary for flexibility but still).
      I hope Dylan gets over the physical aggression soon – for Tucker, it seems to come out more with certain friends, and in certain situations, such as really intense physical play, like bounce houses and stuff like that. Not sure if that helps. But well, hang in there. I’m having a glass of wine right now.August 5, 2014 – 8:33 pmReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth - I still snuggle my boy at age 9. I know the time to end that will be sooner rather than later, so I cherish each time. What we do is read together in my bed before we fall asleep and then Autism Dad carries him back to his own bed. Love love love the pictures of Tucker flying! He looks so happy!August 5, 2014 – 12:43 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I think we should just cherish the time, honestly. It’s going to be much too soon when the day comes that we encounter “KEEP OUT” signs on our kids’ bedroom doors, and on their lives. I like that Autism Dad carries the Navigator to bed. Love.August 5, 2014 – 8:54 pmReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ The Meaning of Me - Why why WHY do I get to the end of your posts and find myself crying my stupid little eyes out??? Today I think it’s because first of all, that little man is so beautiful in those pics – especially the flying. How ever did you let go of him long enough to let him do it? I don’t think I could.
    And then there’s the part where I could have written part of this – how the best part of my day is when Kidzilla is snuggled up next to me in our bed at night and my Hub is saying we can’t make it a habit but oh we so can because really what’s the big deal? He carries her into her room, she rolls over and sighs, and all is well. I don’t want to lose those sweet, precious, sleepy moments. When she squirrels her way into bed between us in the morning…drives me nuts but oh I don’t want to get to the day where yesterday was the last time. Aack!
    I’m blessed at the moment with the luxury of not having to work in summer, but I often struggle with the I should be with her/I should be doing work thing, whether it’s for job or for chores or my own writing, etc., whatever. I know. And I’m glad to know you think exactly those same things because then maybe I’m not a totally goofed up Mom after all! 😀
    I love this – and you!August 5, 2014 – 11:52 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Lisa,
      I like to think it’s because little man is so beautiful but well, ok fine, it’s because he’s amazing. And I only let go because I have also not let go in other ways, and see it, if that makes sense. I so love the snuggles, too, but too often, they come at 4am when I just want to be sleeping, and have him be sleeping, but I also lie there, awake, realizing that I need these snuggles and that they are what make me able to thrive on four to six hours of sleep, when my body wants more.
      And ugh to the struggles of wishing we could be everywhere at once. You’re not goofed up – you’re here, and imperfectly perfect. I promise.August 6, 2014 – 10:46 pmReplyCancel

  • Out One Ear - Linda Atwell - Oh Kristi, does Tucker ever comment about you not being there when he wakes up? If not, he has probably forgotten. I know I would stay with my kids (on occasion) and leave when they went to sleep. They never mentioned anything about not being there when they woke–maybe Tucker is the same way–maybe he just needs that companionship for a moment in time, and that’s enough. Every kid is different and I don’t mean to speak for Tucker. He may have a totally opposite philosophy. Although I don’t think a mommy leaving is the same as tiptoeing away from a lover in the middle of the night. But what do I know? lol

    His new haircut is adorable and sitting alone to have it done, like you said, big step! congrats. Of course I enjoyed your list, AGAIN.August 6, 2014 – 1:37 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Linda, he’s never commented on me being gone. But, he seems to be crawling into my bed earlier than he used to back when he (for like 2 months) told me to go to my own bed (my bed only). Not sure if it’s related or not, but yeah. I love the snuggles and I think you may be right that he needs it only for the moment (again, hope so!!). HAHA to the mommy tiptoeing away from her kid and her lover not being the same – completely agree. I just thought about it when I was oh-so-gently removing myself from Tucker’s bed. It’s not a feeling (the OMG DONT WAKE) that I’ve felt in a bazillion years…August 6, 2014 – 11:05 pmReplyCancel

  • Jen @ Born Just Right - I’m so glad you’ve gotten so much response from your post. I think it’s awesome to see the discussion from the mini-conference continuing. I’m hoping to keep the conversations going as well on my site… social media and wherever else I can find to keep it going. I really hope we can turn the mini-con into a positive experience for you and everyone else who attended!August 6, 2014 – 11:32 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Jen. I’m glad that I did as well, and so appreciated meeting you there. I agree that it’s amazing and awesome to see the conversation continue – in many ways, that’s probably the ultimate point. That we find birds of a feather and forge relationships and talk about the hard and the easy and the in-between stuff. In that sense, this has been really empowering and great for me. I do wish the session had been different, but as a fairly new blogger (less than 2 years) and a first time BlogHer attendee, I didn’t know really what to expect. I’d heard amazing things from the year before and am jealous that I wasn’t there for that. Maybe next year, we can make it amazing again. Thanks so much for coming here to comment and for sharing your perspective.August 6, 2014 – 11:22 pmReplyCancel

  • Michelle Liew - I am so thrilled to see him grow. He is an amazing young man!August 7, 2014 – 8:06 amReplyCancel

  • Herchel Scruggs - I struggle with the same thing when it comes to my little boy. He’s getting older so I try not to stay at his bedside too long but I hate seeing the hurt in his eyes when I leave. I hate seeing the hurt just as much as I love seeing the joy!

    Mom guilt sucks but Tucker knows that you would rather be with him.

    PS
    I am happy you got an apology after Blogher.August 7, 2014 – 10:10 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks big for visiting and commenting and ugh I know. The joy and the hurt. I tend to stay because I’m not sure that Tucker gets it and also? I want to sleep!!! Selfish I know but sometimes, he comes to get me and I’m like “fine let’s go to your room” even when it’s 5am because I know I can sleep for another hour there. I’m happy I got the apology, too, and thank you!!August 8, 2014 – 12:25 amReplyCancel

  • Lana - This post brought me back to when my boys were little, and I had the exact same sleep debate with myself all the time. Now they’re at the “it would be weird if they crawled into bed with me” age, and I do miss those days! I love how you focused on the good things that are going on in your life. I have been having so much anxiety lately, but writing down what I’m grateful for helps bring me back.August 7, 2014 – 12:18 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - It’s so hard, right, Lana? I mean, probably not for you now, but still, this stage, and this life, goes so quickly… and I’m so very sorry to hear about your big anxiety lately and happy that writing helps. Please let me know if I can do anything to help???August 8, 2014 – 12:30 amReplyCancel

  • jaklumen - The special needs community really is a blessing. Right now, however, Cimmy and I haven’t been utilizing it as much because resources for us is a slightly higher priority. Even though he’s stretching our patience this summer, we can’t help Boy if we aren’t getting help for us, if that makes sense. Also, resources are limited to us because of finances, and I’m just not in the best of health to jump through all the paperwork. (The resource center nearest to us does a different system than ABA– I can’t remember the name right now.)

    I can’t wait for school to start, really. More structure, input from his classroom teacher, etc.August 7, 2014 – 8:41 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I agree that the special needs community is incredible and such a blessing. I’m sorry to hear about your struggles for resources and so very much hope you get the ones you need. The paperwork part is awful and I’ll be curious to hear what they do instead of ABA (there’s floor time?? maybe that’s it? I don’t know much about it but know that some districts practice it). Also, tried to get to your site and got a message that I need an invite? Thanks much for coming by and for your comment. I really hope you get what you need and please let me know if there’s anything I can do to help.August 8, 2014 – 12:35 amReplyCancel

      • jaklumen - Yes, Kristi, I marked my site private. I’ll send you an invite. I… have some issues with trust and there’s been some… problems of late, and I felt I needed to hide.

        Not sure how to explain it more than that.August 8, 2014 – 7:41 amReplyCancel

  • clark - last… (no, not competitive! what makes you thing that??!)

    lolAugust 8, 2014 – 6:26 amReplyCancel

  • Joy @ icansaymama - Kristi, I finally found the time to visit and WOW, you won an award at the conference!!!! I am beyond words and so happy for you, you absolutely deserve it! So proud of you, my friend!

    Feel yourself hugged! I miss our conversations! xoAugust 12, 2014 – 8:07 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks Joy! And yes, I actually was not going to go to BlogHer but I had to see that award in person 🙂
      Thank you for the hug and I miss you, too!! Looking forward to catching up!August 12, 2014 – 9:41 amReplyCancel

  • Becka - WOW! congrats on the award! 🙂 That is amazing. That is alot to be thankful for. I love the pictures of the fair. My son also begs me to stay with him,not so much now as he used to, and I feel the horrible guilt of leaving him after he falls asleep but there is the guilt of leaving the hubbie alone or the baby alone.. a mother’s life is full of guilt. 🙂August 12, 2014 – 11:09 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Becka! And yeah, a mother’s life truly is full of guilt. Here’s to us letting go of it and realizing that we’re doing the best that we can and that it’s okay to sneak out after our little guys fall asleep at night!August 14, 2014 – 11:49 amReplyCancel

I went to BlogHer14 this past weekend. For those of you who don’t blog, it’s a pretty large conference where writers meet one another in person, attend parties and a variety of sessions from publishing, to social media optimization, to writing labs, and more. On Saturday afternoon, they held “mini-con” sessions, where we were able […]

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  • Emily - Ohhhh kristi how I wish I was in that breakout session with you because I would have REAMED that fuckity-fuck bi-atch! I admire your composure and for taking the high road and not blasting her on your blog…definitely the classy way to go so kudos to you on that. Also? I’m so sad I missed bonding with all you bloppys- I would have insisted on being your 4th roomie or at least hanging with you gals because I know I’d feel that same magic since I already feel it online…one of these days I’ll get there…:)July 30, 2014 – 12:59 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Emily. I wish you’d have been in the breakout session with me as well. She was such a JERK. I mean, why not have a discussion about it? What good does shaming and judging and assuming do? None. She sucked. Maybe it’ll be on the east coast next year? And YES to 4th roomie!!July 31, 2014 – 11:45 amReplyCancel

  • Mike - You know me very well through friendship and how I’m obviously very proud of you for taking the high road. That’s always been my m.o. in life and served me very well. HOWEVER, my reaction to what was said to you and with regards to Tucker got a VERY passionate reaction out of me just from reading this. Obviously, I wasn’t there to see or know the entire “playing field” but that one would have tested my threshold. I’m deeply sorry that this lady said something so very painfully insensitive to you and indirectly actually to Tucker. The latter really gives me lift off. I applaud you and support you always our dear friend!! They really served Happy Meals, Kristi?July 30, 2014 – 1:33 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - It tested my threshold too, Mike. Big time. And yes, they really served Happy Meals. I have to admit that I caved after drinking and dancing and had most of a cheeseburger. Ugh.July 31, 2014 – 1:22 pmReplyCancel

  • Chris Carter - Shame on this person- for so many reasons on so many levels. I can’t even begin to say how horrified and angry I am that you received such HORRIBLE feedback and how dare she be so ignorant and so egotistical!

    I hope and pray you can move forward – after you file your official complaints- and embrace the beauty of the tribe you were able to enjoy and connect with so wonderfully- and feel encouraged that your voice and Tucker’s life- will be HONORED and LIFTED and PRAISED in your incredibly gorgeous purpose…

    Living in the land of EMPATHY and WONDER.

    McDonald’s? Unbelievable.July 30, 2014 – 2:07 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Chris, thank you. I’ve moved forward, I think. Mostly, anyway. I’m still wondering about being more anonymous with Tucker, and wish we’d had that discussion but the bloggers who were there have been incredible about reaching out and talking to me about the pros and cons of being more anonymous, so the conversation is still happening – which is the incredible part.
      Thank you so much! And yeah. McDonald’s.July 31, 2014 – 7:15 pmReplyCancel

  • Yvonne - First, I’m glad that you did have magic at the conference – and got so many great photos.

    And what a shame that that speaker did not respond to your question, but spoke from her own agenda.

    Yours was a valid and important question, and one I’ve wondered about many times in my own writing. Though my kids don’t have special needs, they have needs, and my older girl was very sensitive and often anxious when she was younger. I didn’t want anything I wrote to exacerbate her feelings, and at first my blog was totally anonymous. (Which meant nobody read it.)

    I honestly don’t think there’s a right or wrong answer to your question. In an ideal world, as long as we write with respect, then our children would be treated that way by readers. But of course, that ideal world doesn’t exist – yet. Even though, as you say, a bunch of 5-yr-olds isn’t going to read your blog, sometimes reading comments on sites like Huffington Post it seems that the average 5-yr-old is more mature than those commentators.

    Everyone sees and hears life through their own filter, and I wonder what on earth has happened in this woman’s life for her to respond to your so important question in such insensitive matter. It seems as if she just didn’t hear you at all, and I can see why you would be feeling disappointed and angry.

    I hope that writing this does mean you’re able to put the anger and ickiness behind you! And definitely write to Blogher!July 30, 2014 – 6:28 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Yvonne. I appreciate it. Writing it really did help and I got the BlogHer survey by email yesterday and plan on being very honest with it, because she should not present to a group of people who are trying to make a difference for special needs acceptance while also respecting their children’s rights. I mean sheesh. On one hand, I think it’s important for people to see such a beautiful and fun-loving boy as Tucker and know that this is also autism. On the other hand, his classmates’ parents don’t need to know about some of his “stuff.” It’s hard. I’m thinking of being a little more and more anonymous, slowly. Still using photos but maybe ones that are of him when he was younger and less identifiable.July 31, 2014 – 7:27 pmReplyCancel

  • Janine Huldie - Wow, I am a bit speechless right now and I totally agree you should definitely complain, because this is not the way to lead a discussion or class. Having been a teacher, I can tell you that if I had treated any of my students this way, I would have been called on the carpet and then probably shown the door. What in the hell made this lady think she had the right or even the balls to treat you this way. Let’s negate that she didn’t even answer your question, but the fact that she could be so condescending really gets under my skin just thinking about it. I am so sorry you were treated this way and I completely agree that at 5 why would you even try to talk to Tucker about Autism. Isn’t being a parent, trying to do all you can to make your child’s environment that much better not to cut them down and make them feel like they are lacking in any way, shape or form. Sounds to me like this person had an agenda totally of their own. Just my two cents and seriously I do hope you complain, because I truly hope she never gets to lead a discussion like this again or learns at the very least this is not appropriate behavior when running a session like this.July 30, 2014 – 7:28 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I know, right? I was pretty speechless when it first happened, too, Janine, and even needed a few days to process it before writing about it. Crazy stuff for sure. I have no idea why she thinks she’s so amazing and knows everything, especially since she asked me nothing about how public my blog is now, about Tucker’s developmental stages and understanding, about any of it. I am totally going to complain. Thank you so much for your sweet and supportive words. I really appreciate your two cents – always. xoJuly 31, 2014 – 8:13 pmReplyCancel

  • Sarah @ LeftBrainBuddha - Oh roomie…. love love this. Yes, the weekend was happy kissy and then there was the suck. So sorry you were made to feel that way and I hope this helps to process it. Overall it sounds like the mini-cons were pretty disappointing. Love the photo slide show. 🙂 love you, miss you, xoxoJuly 30, 2014 – 8:44 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - It was happy kissy and now I really miss you. It does sound like the mini-cons were an overall bust. But meeting you and having it be just perfectly comfortable from the very first second? Priceless and worth every minute of the Happy Meals and other less-than-favorite moments.July 31, 2014 – 8:24 pmReplyCancel

  • Courtney - I’m so impressed by you! I wish I could shoot for the stars like you are. I’m sorry that BlogHer wasn’t great and the speaker’s reaction was more about her than you. I’ve always wanted to attend BlogHer, but that community does not like my work, so i wonder why I should pay so much to attend a place that I don’t think can help me grow. I hope you can make some magic happen and glad you had fun with online friends. Take care, KristiJuly 30, 2014 – 8:53 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Courtney,
      I’m SO impressed BY YOU! I’m not really shooting for the stars… just really wanted to go and see blog friends and kiss my VOTY. Honestly, I have to wonder if that community likes anybody’s work besides the people who have been blogging for 11 years. The special needs mini-con was beyond horrible and awful and I still sorta can’t believe it. Thanks so much sweets. Been thinking about you.July 31, 2014 – 8:46 pmReplyCancel

  • Michele - Oh, Kristi, that is INFURIATING. It is clear to all who know you just how right you are doing by Tucker, and I don’t doubt for a second that however you choose to approach writing about him in the future, it will continue to be brave and heartfelt and funny. I also don’t doubt that BlogHer will be getting a very clear message of a different sort from you this week! I’m glad that that negative experience didn’t sour you on the rest of a magical trip (b/c VOTY! and Jenny!)July 30, 2014 – 8:59 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Michele, I agree. It was SO infuriating. And unhelpful and mean and unproductive and all the rest. Thank you for having faith that I’ll do the right thing by Tucker. It’s hard to know how much it’s my responsibility as a writer to say “YES, this, too, is autism and special needs” without, well, outing him, I guess? I mean it’s important for parents to know that these things are so very varied, because my husband and I were in denial for a long time, due to Tucker’s eye contact and other things we didn’t realize can also be autism.
      But, well, he’s going to be in a class with 24 kids next year. Not that they’ll read this blog, but, well, yeah. It’s out there…
      And yeah, VOTY and Jenny and Arianna were AWESOME. I can’t wait to see you later this month (AND OMG it’s AUGUST!!?!?).July 31, 2014 – 9:10 pmReplyCancel

  • Katia - Meeting you, my friend, was pure magic. Public shaming in a forum that is supposed to bring people together, people who share so much in common, is the biggest sucker punch one could expect. I hope the organizers are open to honest feedback. This kind of experience shouldn’t be anyone’s takeaway from an event like this.July 30, 2014 – 9:13 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Katia, meeting YOU was magical and amazing, and I totally adore you. I also agree that shaming when we should be focusing on raising one another up is a sad, sad, awful thing. I hope BH is open to it, too. But who knows. Sometimes, it matters that people have been doing this for so long. Sigh. I miss you!!July 31, 2014 – 9:13 pmReplyCancel

  • Katia - Also, I’m impressed with your ability to analyze the situation so perfectly and put into writing in a coherent and respectful way. I would probably still be going “WTF”?????July 30, 2014 – 9:15 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Trust me, sweets. I’m still going WTF. I was just mad enough to post. Anger is a good motivator 😉July 31, 2014 – 9:15 pmReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth - Wow. Just wow. A good moderator should be almost invisible to memory, promoting the rich discussion of those attending, not dominating the event. I am so sorry you had to deal with that. As you didn’t get your question answered, ask us your loyal readers! I am happy to talk about the decisions made regarding a) our son’s privacy in my blog, and b) how we discussed his diagnosis with him. Big hugs and glad the rest of the conference was good!July 30, 2014 – 9:25 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - So right, Elizabeth, that a good moderator should be invisible. She was too full of herself and I’m still upset about it. I’m trying not to be, because obviously unproductive, but come ON!! I’d love to talk to you more about how you talked to your son about his autism. I’m wondering now if that’s something I should have considered before and didn’t… but Tucker is still learning his letters, so… ????July 31, 2014 – 10:59 pmReplyCancel

      • Elizabeth - In short, he indicated that he needed to know so that’s when we told him. When you’re ready, shoot me an email and we can talk more about when and how we told him about his diagnosis (he was 7), and how we still talk about it. 🙂August 5, 2014 – 2:04 pmReplyCancel

  • Kerri - Holy crap how did you not end up needing bail money? Like seriously you did not need to call Stephanie and say hey girl I need a ride home from the pokey? Yes I just said pokey. But seriously that moderator was obviously not qualified to lead karaoke let alone a break out session. Holy crap I’m pissed on your behalf.

    And proud because you are classy enough to not end up in a bar fight (this time) which must have been beyond difficult. I’m sorry that this weekend you looked so forward to was marred by a jerk.

    I’m also freaking jealous. I TOLD you that you were famous 🙂July 30, 2014 – 9:27 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I know, right? haha to the pokey and yeah it’s pretty amazing I didn’t end up there!!! And thanks, love. For you. She was a total jerk and so not famous.July 31, 2014 – 11:09 pmReplyCancel

  • Dana - First, I am super happy and a little jealous that the majority of the conference was so awesome. I loved seeing the slide show, so thank you for that. Second, all those names the Bloppies were throwing sound for that woman when you posted about it on our page? Sounds like they were spot on. Kudos to you for speaking up. Who knows how many other people she’s shamed with her words. I much prefer your words: honest, positive, real. You.July 30, 2014 – 9:31 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thank you so much, Dana. And yeah, they were spot on. What was the best one? Twatrocket? Um, something like that.July 31, 2014 – 11:25 pmReplyCancel

  • Twindaddy - Wow. I don’t like that woman’s response, either. I’m refraining from saying some really harsh words here….

    Anyhow, I’m glad that, overall, you had a really good time.July 30, 2014 – 9:37 amReplyCancel

  • Little Miss Wordy - It was magical for me to meet you, spend time with you and get to know you. I miss you tons! Reading this, I went through several emotions but the strongest was pride that you, an amazing, intelligent, strong, eloquent woman bravely shared this well written response to a situation that was completely uncalled for. High five and big hugs!July 30, 2014 – 9:45 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I miss you, too! I just read your post and still can’t believe you fractured your poor foot! Thanks, too, for the support about talking about the sucky part. xoxo and miss you!July 31, 2014 – 11:39 pmReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - Love all the pictures and so sorry you had that experience with the Q&A. I can imagine that hurt and I hope that by venting it out helped but I hope you get some resolution – like an apology or knowing for sure that she won’t be invited back. I biting back an acronym to call her 😉July 30, 2014 – 10:29 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Kenya. I’m biting back a lot of things to call her, and I guess the best will be if she’s not invited back. However, it seems these conferences really cater to people who have been blogging for 10+ years as presenters, and well, she has. Guess it’s our world in another 9 or so???July 31, 2014 – 11:46 pmReplyCancel

  • Jessica - Amen, sister! You’re doing an awesome job! I am sorry you didn’t get an answer to your question, and had that awful experience. I don’t know how people can feel good about themselves, putting others down like that. Good for you for keeping yourself positive. And I am glad you had all the wonderful experiences, too (jello shots and awards — woo hoo and congrats!). I hope when I grow up, I can be a real blogger and get to go to a conference like that. I would love to meet all of my favorite blog ladies! 🙂July 30, 2014 – 10:35 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Jessica. I don’t know how people feel good putting others down either, but it seems to be kinda “a thing” and I almost wish I never knew about it in the blogging community. The awards and jello shots (which I just had vodka, for the record because don’t do well with sweet sugar shots) were awesome. I’d love to meet you. Tell me you’re coming to something? I’m not sure what I’ll go to in the future but I’d love love love to meet you.July 31, 2014 – 11:50 pmReplyCancel

  • Deb @ Urban Moo Cow - W. T. F. You already know how I feel, but I just wanted to add one more thing. Often activists have to be “all in” — they forget about the nuances of life and are single-mindedly focused on ONE GOAL, which is THE goal, and no other goals or concerns are important. Sometimes this is how major changes come about in society — civil rights, women’s rights, etc. I am definitely NOT defending her; more explaining to you how you can not take it personally, even though it is so personal. It’s so unfortunate that BlogHer chose such a rabid, one-sided person to speak at the conference. Then again… McDonalds, Khloe Kardashian, etc… Hmmm. Maybe they are losing their compass. Love you and so sorry she shamed you. I will note that you are the bigger person for not publicly shaming her here. xoJuly 30, 2014 – 10:37 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Deb. You’re so freaking awesome. I thank you for the perspective of being “all in” because that’s not something I’d have considered in a billion years. It does suck when that goal is rabid and not focused on the good of all though, unlike rights. I believe in rights. Mostly, all of them, for all of us. But to shame me? That part seems dumb and stupid and self serving in such a non-productive way. and good point re: McD, Kardashian, yeah. I love you, too. And wish you’d have been there.August 1, 2014 – 12:09 amReplyCancel

  • Roshni - How dare she?!!! Did anyone respond to that exceptionally rude answer?! At least one of the other moderators should have said something! !

    All taken together, I’m a little less disappointed about not going. Yes, I would have loved to have posed with my poster but that’s about it. I’m confident of meeting all you fabulous ladies in less expensive settings! !July 30, 2014 – 10:54 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I think so too – that one of the other moderators should have said something and I’m glad to have seen your poster in person – so very deserved and awesome. I think we’ll meet as well, in a better setting for sure!!!August 1, 2014 – 12:40 amReplyCancel

  • jillsmo - I have to say that I wasn’t surprised by any of this. It was exactly what I expected from the agenda-having asshole, especially considering that at the first day of the conference she got up in front of 2000 bloggers and said that if you have feelings about your child having autism it means that you’re in a pain competition with them. She’s horrible.July 30, 2014 – 11:12 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Yeah, she’s fucking horrible. I’m glad there are sane people like you, to keep me sane in this crazy blogging world. Thank you for everything. I appreciate it so much. Plus, you’ll forever be my blog crush.August 1, 2014 – 12:43 amReplyCancel

  • Dani G - Even though I wasn’t there, I know who you’re talking about. Unfortunately, we in the special needs/Autism community know that shaming other parents who don’t see things EXACTLY as she does is totally her thing. That’s what she does. That’s why so many of us don’t follow that page anymore.

    The worst part? I worry for the newly diagnosed families searching for answers and support and showing up to a mini-con like that or to the page she admins and being shamed into a corner and deflated. It’s a terrible disservice she provides to parents who are often scared and feeling desperate. Bitch.July 30, 2014 – 11:45 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - It’s been really eye-opening to me to read how many of you know who this is and agree that she’s horrid. I had never heard of her, or her stupid FB page before and now, well, I guess it’s a good thing I’ve been enlightened. I, too, worry about new parents finding her. I’m glad that I didn’t find her and found JillSmo and Ellen (love that max) instead. Yeah, she’s a bitch. Thank you for your comment!!August 1, 2014 – 12:50 amReplyCancel

  • Kelly @OneQuarterMama - Hi! First time I’m stopping by here. I found you through Triberr.

    I went to BlogHer last year, and like you, I was a little underwhelmed. I found the panels way too basic and it was just ok. I did like all the free stuff though! I don’t drink, so I don’t care for the parties. Anywho, I think I would be better suited for BlogHerPro if I am to return.

    I also think you asked a really good question. I am open about my own autism. My son is almost five and I am open about his, but I do have a sort of personal “privacy policy” I use when it comes to disclosing certain things. I do not use his real name on my blog. I don’t post tons of pics. I don’t disclose things of a personal nature – like bodily functions, bad moods – things that can be embarrassing later on.

    I think for me it’s because I don’t see autism as something to hide. If you get to know me, it becomes fairly apparent – it’s not something I can hide and don’t really want to. I think the more open we are, the more accepting people can be. I would hope by the time he’s older, it will be seen as something totally normal and it will be easy for people to make accommodations.

    I also believe in giving them the language they need to understand their world. You might be surprised to think your child knows he’s different. I was not able to verbalize it, but I always knew. The problem is when I did not have a diagnosis or language to explain it, I blamed myself. I thought there was something very wrong or bad with me. So even if you don’t believe he understands, you can start telling him he is different and special. Point out his challenges and his talents with him. Tell him people have different brains and that’s ok. I tell my son he has my brain, but not daddy’s. I tell him we both share an amazing eye for detail, but we sometimes struggle with other things.July 30, 2014 – 12:07 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Hi, Kelly.
      Thank you so much for your insightful comment. I’d love to learn more about how you feel the best way to talk to my son (and for my friends to talk to their ASD children as well) about delays, autism, speech, etc.

      Honestly, I’ve never really thought about it before. My son Tucker is fairly high functioning, and is socially motivated, but very delayed from his typical peers. He also just turned five, so is pretty young, and still working on ABC’s so I’m not sure how much he’d understand about whatever I say about him being unique.

      I suppose I’m guilty of assuming that he’s not aware that he’s different, but maybe he is. I do know that when he talks to other kids on the playground, that he’s often met with either questions as to what he’s saying, or a dismissal, and so maybe he is more aware than I realize.

      I’d very much like your input on speaking to my son about his differences. I don’t see autism as something to hide, either, and think it’s very important for all children to realize how unique and different they are. When we enter ASD into that picture, it’s even more important, I think.

      I’m so sorry that you went through a period where you blamed yourself and if you have any advice on me speaking to my son, so that he doesn’t do the same, I’d love to hear it. And thank you for your comment – I appreciate your insight.August 1, 2014 – 1:00 amReplyCancel

      • Kelly @OneQuarterMama - I actually wrote a post about disclosure not too long ago: http://www.onequartermama.ca/2014/06/how-to-explain-autism-to-5-year-old.html

        I also use the reasoning given to me by a nurse when I went to bereavement counselling. My son was 16 months when my dad died and I hadn’t actually said the words to him. I said things like, “we can’t see him anymore,” “he’s up in the sky” and the nurse said, “you need to tell him he’s dead. You need to give him the language to tell his story and as he gets older, he will put it together and understand.” It was hard, but eventually I did it. And I’m sure he didn’t understand at first, but now he’s starting to. He asks questions now and I can answer them frankly. I don’t think kids get euphemisms very well. One of my son’s first questions about my father’s death was, “did I cause it?” – I think kids always blame themselves first – like with divorces or anything like that.

        So the same goes for disability disclosure. Slowly, with lots of little mini conversations, you bring up little details. Talking about it often also keeps the doors of communication open. It’s not a taboo subject, it’s something you can talk about and discuss.

        As he gets older, he can tell other children why he needs some alone time, for example, when they want to play.

        As an aside, just because your son does not repeat back his ABCs the way you would expect, does not mean he does not know them. Always presume competence. It just doesn’t always come out as you would expect. The wheels are always turning in our heads. So many times (still, as an adult) someone will ask me if I know something and I’ll say “no,” but then I realize I really do, and in many cases, I actually know more about it than the person asking me, but the right thoughts did not assemble themselves fast enough for me to say it.

        And thanks for asking me questions. I’m happy to give my insight if it helps someone.August 1, 2014 – 10:17 amReplyCancel

        • Kristi Campbell - I really appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts and your post, Kelly. A lot. I commented on your blog as well but it’s this conversation that has helped me to identify ways to talk to my son about being unique. I think I can start with speech, as I think he may have apraxia, although we’re not sure. But it seems like a great place to start, as it’s his biggest challenge. I also really appreciate your insight that just because he may not say his ABC’s correctly, that it doesn’t mean he doesn’t know them. I have a feeling I’ll be asking you quite a few questions. Thank you!!!August 1, 2014 – 4:19 pmReplyCancel

  • Rachel - Hi —

    I’m so sorry this happened to you. I am disabled and I have a kid who is now 21 and transgender. I have never, ever posted anything about my kid without running it by them first. Ever. If my kid says, “no,” the post doesn’t go up. My kid’s privacy is incredibly important to me. I started blogging when my kid was 16 and able to read the things I write and make an informed decision about them; if they’d been any younger and I wanted to blog about our lives, I’d have hidden our identities behind several walls of anonymity. I am not at all comfortable with people who talk about the details of their minor children’s lives without protecting their privacy.

    As for telling your kid that he is autistic — there is time for that. Plenty of time. No need to do it on anyone else’s time schedule but your own. Your first priority is your kid, your schedule, your lives. Don’t let anyone shame you about that.July 30, 2014 – 12:46 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thank you, Rachel. I really appreciate your insight and your comment. I do think there are some small ways that I can begin conversations with my son – possibly speech is a good place to start as it’s his biggest challenge and so likely the thing that will become obvious to him first. Also, I really liked your post on dismantling the idea of normalcy, by the way. Excellent.August 1, 2014 – 4:25 pmReplyCancel

  • Sarah - And my heartbeat is elevated reading it! What a $&@&”$&!!!!!!!!!! There is no place for speakers like her, especially in such a sensitive niche.
    Your question is such a good one. I debate it into mind all the time. All.The.Time. I can’t make up my mind how much to share. You can do so much advocating when you’re open like you are. On the other hand, I have those same privacy questions. I really don’t know what is right.
    As for talking to Tucker about his autism, obviously he is too young! I’m with you 100%. Anyone who has ever read your blog knows you’ll be amazing at communicating with him about his strengths and weaknesses when the time is right. And you and Robert are THE ONLY ONES who will know when the time is right.
    What is so infuriating about this presenter is that she assumes she knew Tucker’s needs better than you, and that’s what really gets me! What insufferable hubris! Anyone with any experience, introspection, compassion (I could go on) knows this basic truth: nobody’s mama knows better than that kid’s mama. So shut the eff up.July 30, 2014 – 1:30 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I agree, Sarah. No place at ALL. What could have been a really positive and helpful conversation turned into bleh and ickiness. I can’t make up my mind how much to share, either. On one hand, I think it’s important for people to know that special needs children don’t always look like it (because I think it’s been easier for me to be in denial about Tucker, especially when he was even younger) BUT next year, he’ll be with a bunch of typical kids. I don’t want to share anything he won’t be comfortable with later. It’s hard.
      Thanks for the support, too, about talking to him. I agree that we’ll know when the time is right although I have been thinking about it a lot. I think we’re going to start talking to him more about speech because that will be what he’ll notice first, I think, about being different.
      HAHA to insufferable hubris! <3
      I adore you.August 1, 2014 – 4:32 pmReplyCancel

  • Linda Atwell - Out One Ear - Wow. I know you experienced awesomeness at this event. It’s too bad about the happy meals and the “afterthought” recognition. I’ve been to events like that and it sure seems like the people hosting the show have forgotten what the show was supposed to be about. Your sign is cool. I’d kiss it too. 🙂

    As far as the workshop. I absolutely hate to be publicly shamed–especially when I ask a legitimate question. I’m sure the whole room felt uncomfortableness about this. I hope you do suggest that this person never return. You are awesome and you will do what is right for you and Tucker. I was a bit luckier in one aspect. Lindsey had a physical disability: tremors, that got worse over time. We started talking about them early, like three, four, five. We didn’t make a big deal about them, but said she might have to work harder when they were at their worst. We gave her new ways to try things and she went to therapy once a week. Anyway, Lindsey grew up with the knowledge she had tremors, just like she had the knowledge she had blonde (at the time) hair. It was no big deal. As far as the mental disabilities, I guess I was in denial for so long I really didn’t discus those with her until later. Maybe even ten years old, when she started asking questions on why she was different from the other kids. I just acted like it was no big deal as we talked. And most of time, Lindsey skipped (or her version of a skip) outside to play.July 30, 2014 – 1:44 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks Linda. I hope talking to Tucker comes with a ton of insight. It’s a little bit frightening to think about how to bring it up, ya know? But I think I should say something before he worries that something’s “wrong” with him. Maybe I start with speech therapy, since he must know that there’s a reason he has to practice words so much. And yeah, the event was a huge disappointment. Sigh.August 1, 2014 – 4:35 pmReplyCancel

  • christine - It was so fun to see all of the photos on FB and IG you all posted while at the conference. Clearly, you all had a blast.
    As for High and Mighty Moderator, I would have sat there stunned, unable to come up with a retort. Until the break-out session was over. THEN, when it was too late, I would have had all sorts of awesome things to say to her and would be furious that I didn’t think of them sooner. I’d still be stewing. Oh wait, this isn’t about me. 🙂

    I hope you find the right people to talk to at BlogHer in order to keep this person from being moderator again. Hey, maybe they’ll even ask you to replace her!July 30, 2014 – 2:23 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I was pretty stunned, Christine. Like big stunned. I tried to talk more but ended up giving up. The cool part was that so many of the people in the audience ended up having a discussion with me (and continue to) so that I can work through how much I should share. And I hope I find the right people at BlogHer, too. HAHA to replacing her – I think this chick’s been blogging for 11 years!August 1, 2014 – 4:42 pmReplyCancel

  • The Dose of Reality - SO nice to hear your experience. AND CONGRATULATION ON YOU VOTY! WOOT!! I’d have been hugging and kissing my sign for hours!! Way to go!!!

    We’ve never made it to BlogHer so it’s invaluable to hear about your experience to see if we should budget for it next year. Getting to meet and be with bloggy friends sounds heavenly. BUT WHAT IN THE WORLD with that horrible moderator. WHAT?!?! I cannot believe she responded like that. Beyond terrible. I hope they never let her anywhere near another conference.

    And not for nothing, but your question was EXCELLENT. It’s too bad that lady was horrid, because it would have been a really interesting and helpful conversation for bloggers to have with someone normal. –LisaJuly 30, 2014 – 3:32 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks for the congrats, Lisa! You two should come to a BlogHer because I’d LOVE to meet you in person! And yeah, I agree that it would have been a great conversation to have with bloggers had the moderator been anything more than the douche she was. Thanks much!August 1, 2014 – 4:47 pmReplyCancel

  • Allie - I was reading the beginning and kind of sad that I didn’t go…and then I read what happened and I am relieved. I probably would have been in that session with you – and I would have lost it and made a fool of myself. I cannot believe she said that! You know my situation, and I can’t even imagine what she would have said to ME!!!!July 30, 2014 – 4:00 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I know – she was AWFUL! I saw your email and will reply – sorry, been swamped trying to catch up after being gone for four days!! I would LOVE to do a conference with you and so very much wish you’d been in the special needs mini-con with me. It was pretty terrible.August 1, 2014 – 5:16 pmReplyCancel

  • Rebecca - I am bothered by your experience with that crappy panelist! How dare she! She should ask more questions before giving her worthless two cents…like, “What does he understand about autism right now?” I get pretty protective over people, even when I don’t know them well, and right now I’m feeling protective of you. Give me this ladies address! jk ;xJuly 30, 2014 – 4:42 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Rebecca, I’m bothered by the experience as well but I feel really lucky that so many people from the session have reached out and told me that this woman is known for being an evil troll online and offered their support and ideas about how to move forward with both openness and respect for my son’s privacy. Thank you so much and I love that you are feeling protective! 🙂
      Thank you!August 1, 2014 – 6:02 pmReplyCancel

  • kimberly @ red shutters - It was great to meet you at the writing lab, especially after having enjoyed your blog from afar.

    I really hope you pass along this information to the BlogHer leadership. It is unacceptable for anyone to be so disrespectful–especially a session speaker.

    I’ll keep reading!July 30, 2014 – 5:28 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks so much Kimberly and I loved meeting you, too! I did actually fill out the post-conference survey today and included a recap of the special needs mini-con. I just hope somebody will read it and take it to heart and have better speakers next year.August 1, 2014 – 6:11 pmReplyCancel

  • Janel - Holy shit. I would have freaked the fuck out if she said that to me, and I would have held your purse and earrings for you if I had been sitting at your table when she said that to you. Congrats on your voice of the year. I remember hearing you read your piece at BlogU, and I loved it.July 30, 2014 – 6:11 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Janel,
      Thanks so much! Too bad you weren’t in the session with me because maybe somebody holding my purse and earrings was what I needed to retaliate more properly!!August 1, 2014 – 6:33 pmReplyCancel

  • Kathy at kissing the frog - Hmmm,this is why I have never really wanted to go to BlogHer. I don’t do well in huge, impersonal settings, and it sounds just like what this was. I’m glad you got to meet people IRL and make connections that are going to be important, but I’m sorry the speaker wasn’t more helpful. For shame. 🙁July 30, 2014 – 6:37 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Kathy,
      Yeah, the speaker should have been more helpful. Or, at least, um, nice. Thanks so much!August 1, 2014 – 6:35 pmReplyCancel

  • Courtney - I’m back. I’ve been thinking about this today, and I just want to let you know that your wonderings are valid. I don’t write much any more because my kids are asking me not to share their failures and learnings. You will talk to Tucker when the time is right (we told our son at 7 due to HIS circumstances) YOU WILL KNOW WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT to tell him.July 30, 2014 – 7:36 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thank you so very much, Courtney!! I really really really appreciate you coming back and you in general because you’re so wonderful and lovely and well, thank you!!!August 1, 2014 – 6:40 pmReplyCancel

  • Jess at Welcome to the Bundle - I know just how much you love your kid and advocate for him every minute of your day. I’m so sorry that someone with an ego that needed stroking decided to use you to get her jollies. Keep in mind that for every careless, clueless person who tries to cut you down, you have a band of supporters who will happily pull you back up. And that is a testament to the kind of blogger, mom, and person you are.July 30, 2014 – 8:13 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Jess. I really really appreciate it – and YOU, because well, you. And thanks, too, for the reminder of the people willing to help me back up when I need it. Same goes to you, sister of the Advanced Maternal Age (hahah because I was told it was 38 so maybe they adjust the age to just a couple behind us to make us feel better?).August 1, 2014 – 7:29 pmReplyCancel

  • Alison - Thank you for sharing your experience, Kristi. I’m glad you met so many online friends, and had a great time.

    I am also sorry for your experience with that speaker, who was definitely out of line. Our journey, our story, that is our own. No one has a right to tell you what to do or how to do it.July 30, 2014 – 8:27 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Alison. I wish you’d been there. One of these days. Thanks so much for your support and you’re right. Our stories are our own and nobody has a right to tell us how to be, or to do. xoAugust 1, 2014 – 7:48 pmReplyCancel

  • Caitlin Beauchaine - Kristi – I’m so glad you enjoyed connecting with some fellow bloggers at the conference, but that totally sucks about the mini sessions. To me, it seems like a great topic of conversation to discuss whether or not it’s the right thing to be sharing personal information about our families so publicly. I wonder about this too, about whether or not it’s safe to be sharing photos and private thoughts and information. I don’t think it has anything to do with having a “thick skin.” It’s about safety, privacy, and how our kids might feel about the honest things we’ve posted about them when they are older. And to tell you that you should talk to him about having Autism at 5 years old? That’s crazy. As a mother, you will know when the time is right. I totally respect your honesty and I’m glad you shared your disappointments, because hopefully this type of shaming won’t happen again.July 30, 2014 – 8:55 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I really did enjoy the connections, Caitlin, and thank you for your insightful comment. I appreciate it, a lot. I’ve been feeling pretty raw and sad and well, all of the inadequate things since this, like I’m doing it all wrong, but honestly, I don’t think I am doing it all wrong. I don’t think it has anything to do with a thick skin either, but damn. Well. I hope I know when the time is right. I guess each of us has to trust ourselves to know when the time is right to talk to our kids about ALL of the things, yes? And thank you again. <3August 1, 2014 – 8:58 pmReplyCancel

  • JD @ Honest Mom - I’m so glad you had such a good time – and I’m so sorry that woman was so terrible to you. I think most of us have so little experience with bloggers being jerks to fellow bloggers that when it happens – and in person, no less – it’s just mindbogglingly shocking. No one has a right to tell anyone how to advocate. Or whether or not they should advocate in the first place! Ugh. But I’m glad you had a blast with everyone and I hope to see you next year!!!July 30, 2014 – 8:57 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, JD. I agree and have not had any experience with anybody being a jerk to me about how I do what I do when it comes to blogging until this experience. I hope to see you next year! Or at something, anyway!!August 2, 2014 – 11:43 amReplyCancel

  • WriterMom Angela - I am so incredibly sorry that you had that experience. Why do women think they have to always make things about someone else’s flaws in order to feel better about themselves?

    My son has ADD, he was diagnosed about 9 months ago and he knows that he was diagnosed with this and what that means…as much as an 11 year old can understand that is. He also knows that his cousins have ADHD and really what this means is that their brain works differently than other people’s and even than each other’s! His close friend has Autism, and he knows the same thing, that his brain works a little differently but guess what, his heart works exactly the same as ours does!

    People need to learn to shut their damn mouths when they don’t have anything constructive to add! I applaud your question, it’s a tough one! I try hard to be open and honest but also protect my family’s privacy. It’s a delicate balance and one you can’t go back and undo. Privacy lost is gone, and can’t be regained.July 30, 2014 – 9:49 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Angela. I love the idea of explaining that some people’s brains work differently but that their hearts are the same – great words!! And I don’t know why women have to make things about somebody’s flaws. It’s really sad – we should build one another up, not shut one another down.August 2, 2014 – 12:08 pmReplyCancel

  • jaklumen - I wish I could have been there, at least for that one moment.

    Why do I think I could have made a difference? Because I figure I’m a rare breed. I’m a father, on disability, who’s proudly domestic. And I’m a father of a 7-year old boy with autism.

    But I’m an outsider. Does that make sense? Take a peek at my blog. It’s okay, it doesn’t bite. See, that woman wouldn’t have seen what was coming if I’d been there to comment next. I write about the Hero’s Journey. I write about Joseph Campbell. I write about myths and stories, but also raw, real life. Who’s my blogging hero? Brett McKay of The Art of Manliness. I want my son to grow up to be a hero and win his own battles, and I say…

    THAT WOMAN wimped out. It was a wimp-ass retort. A coward’s reply. You have every right to set things just so, so if Tucker wants to come blog in about 10-15 years and speak about his own experience, you allowed him that choice. You allowed him some room to speak on his own terms.

    Keep your head up, Sister Blogger. You are awesome, because I say so. The battle isn’t over yet.July 30, 2014 – 10:23 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thank you so very much Jaklumen – I wish you’d have been there too and would have loved to hear your retort. I think that woman wimped out, too and here’s to our sons growing up to be heroes. Truly. I most definitely will check out your blog – am very intrigued!August 2, 2014 – 12:20 pmReplyCancel

  • yvonne@attractedtoshinythings - I was so upset after I read this post, I googled the list of Mini-Con speakers and IMMEDIATELY knew who you were talking about. It sounds to me like she was projecting her own shit onto you. She turned her issue into what (she thought was) your question. NOBODY from TPGA should EVER be asked to speak about Autism, IMO. Everytime I go to that page, there’s nothing but parent-bashing going on, and very limited understanding of the whole picture of autism. I’m so sorry this happened to you, and I’m glad you spoke up about it.July 30, 2014 – 10:51 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Yvonne, it’s amazing how many people knew immediately who she is – I guess that says quite a bit. And parent bashing? So not cool. UGH. I don’t actually go to that page so I haven’t really seen it. I’m so tempted but may get sucked in and would rather get sucked into hilarious blog posts about you in second grade.August 2, 2014 – 12:38 pmReplyCancel

  • Sylvia - OMG! Her answer had nothing to do with your question! What an ass! I cannot stand idiots who think they know all about you and your kid and what you should be doing. If it’s any Help at all I think Tucker will eventually be able to make it known if he doesn’t want you to disclose on your blog about his autism. I wish I had never told my now 24 yr old Son that he had autism.July 30, 2014 – 10:51 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I agree Sylvia!!! And really? I’d be curious to learn more about why you wish you’d never told your son that he has autism. Thanks so much for your comment and support!August 2, 2014 – 12:43 pmReplyCancel

      • Sylvia - Because now he is so high functiioning now that unless you are familiar with autism or live with him you might not notice that he even has it. He has never disclosed at college or job interview or ever asked for any accommodation of any kind. I’m not saying that he is cured or couldn’t use a little help, but he refuses to ask. Not telling him is an option and something to think about anyway.August 2, 2014 – 1:29 pmReplyCancel

        • Kristi Campbell - Thank you, Sylvia. That’s actually really helpful, because it’s something I struggle with too. I’m not sure if it’s smart to give Tucker the word “autism” as he is well, very very delayed with language and has some worrisome control and anger issues, BUT, he’s very socially motivated, engages in incredible imaginative play, and, for the most part, isn’t obviously autistic. His language barriers are quite obvious, but for the rest of it, I’m not really sure yet. I think the place to start is in talking to him about his words, so that he knows nothing is “wrong with him” when people can’t always understand him. It’s a hard place and I really appreciate you coming back to share your advice. So much.August 2, 2014 – 8:44 pmReplyCancel

  • Jhanis - So sorry to hear about what happened Kristi! Whatever she said were pure misguided, uninformed and unrequited advice/bashing meant to make the speaker feel good about herself. Nuff said.July 30, 2014 – 11:16 pmReplyCancel

  • Ashley Fitting - Humph. That person should have been kicked, hard and immediately during that break out. I think that is one of the things that drives me NUTS about BH (and yes I did go and yes I’ve gone to more than one)is that some of these people sit up on those panels and just see themselves SO HIGH up there. Like, hey, I’m on a panel and I’m awesome and you’re an idiot. Everyone’s story is important. Everyone has to make a choice about how much they put out there and how it affects THEIR family and THEIR lives and THEIR story. Fuck her and the stupid fucking blog she rode in on. ROWR.

    That being said, there are plenty of people who spoke at BH that are awesome and amazing and while I didn’t take a whole heck of a lot away from the conference (besides an AWESOME time with friends) I know that they feel blessed and privileged that people even want to hear them talk …

    I wish we had met there! Because I’m un-judgy and pretty damn fun 🙂 and can dance to Rev Run with the best of them… when they aren’t shutting him down for noise violations.July 31, 2014 – 12:02 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Ashley, I know what you mean about some of the panelists being all “I’m huge and important and you’re all a bunch of nobodies so listen to me tell you how fabulous I am” but also – yeah, there were some awesome ones as well. Ones that actually led the sessions and empowered and inspired. I really enjoyed the publishing session.
      And holy cow – is that what happened to Rev Run? I was wondering why he left so early. I’d have loved to have met you! Next conference for sure!August 2, 2014 – 1:02 pmReplyCancel

  • Angela McKeown Momopolize - I’m so sorry you had to deal with that beeatch. She’s the one who deserves to be publicly shamed, but I admire that you are taking the high road and handling it privately (and not giving her any undeserved traffic!). Love that the other parts were so awesome. Big hugs to you!July 31, 2014 – 3:20 amReplyCancel

  • Michelle @ A Dish of Daily Life - Oh Kristi, I am so sorry. I completely understand why you were so upset…there was no reason for those kind of comments and not only that, they weren’t even relevant to your question! You are definitely right to complain. I can’t stand people who get on their high horse like that…she’s on a panel so she must be special…seriously? Get a reality check.
    On another note, Happy Meals? Really? Please tell me that didn’t happen.July 31, 2014 – 7:06 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Michelle. And yeah, the Happy Meals were dinner. For real. The party was a lot of fun though. I wish you’d have been there!!! And I so agree that her stupid comments weren’t even relevant to my question. Ugh.August 2, 2014 – 1:08 pmReplyCancel

  • Nicole Leigh Shaw - Oh, I’m so, so sorry this happened. I can only imagine how you felt, publicly singled out and made to feel inadequate. You know none of that is true. I know you know that. Big hugs, momma.July 31, 2014 – 10:02 amReplyCancel

  • Tricia - Oh Kristi I am so sorry. But so glad you shared. Anytime more than two moms get together is an opportunity for building up. And that opportunity doubles when those moms are writers and bloggers and advocates. There is never any reason for tearing down in that moment, there are so many other things and people to do the tearing down. I’m glad that you are able to put that moment aside and focus on the glow. Because the glow in that photo of you and your VOTY, that will take you so far.July 31, 2014 – 10:43 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Aw, thank you Tricia! Here’s to moms and writers and all of us building one another up. I really appreciate your comment!!August 2, 2014 – 1:16 pmReplyCancel

  • Gary Sidley - The conference clearly was a mixed bag. Events of this kind (whether they’re about writing/blogging or any other issue) always attract a wide variety of people, some of whom are always self-opinionated arse-holes. I’m just so pleased to hear about the bonding, friendships and networking and hope these positives will be the memories that endure.July 31, 2014 – 11:01 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Gary, I will definitely hang onto the glowy bonding and friendships because that part of the conference was absolutely incredible. Thanks much, friend!!August 2, 2014 – 1:24 pmReplyCancel

  • Lucy Ball - As an anon blogger, I am deeply offended. As a person you wanted to lick, I am deeply enamored. 🙂 I’ve struggled with this since I began blogging. I have been called everything from a COWARD to a LIAR and a PHONY for being anonymous. It’s a choice. And I would hope that anyone speaking as an advocate on any issue would have the intelligence and sensitivity, or at least the basic skills to speak to this. The idea of wanting to share our voice to help ourselves and others is a slippery slope. And I TOTALLY get what you’re saying about wanting to protect your loved ones, especially years from now. I hope your feedback on that session will be taken to heart by BlogHer.July 31, 2014 – 12:27 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - HAHAH Lucy. I can’t believe people have called you a coward and a liar and a phony for being anonymous. Everybody’s blogs are THEIR BUSINESS and it’s our right to do what we think is best for our situation and our families. I wish I’d have thought about it more before I began blogging actually, but I guess I never really realized that people would actually read this here thing. And I hope BH takes my feedback, too. We’ll see. XOAugust 2, 2014 – 1:28 pmReplyCancel

  • Angel The Alien - BlogHer sounds like a lot of fun except for that one person. I think sometimes there are some bloggers who take their blogging position a little too seriously. They start to think they are really experts and above everyone else. But I’ve seen this among non-blog people too. I’ve seen it A LOT among people who work with children or animals, for some reason. There are always a few that really seem to believe that they know more than anyone else, that everything they do is the correct thing, and that most other people are idiots. I generally try to avoid those people at all costs.July 31, 2014 – 1:20 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I think you’re right about some bloggers taking themselves too seriously, Angel. And other people do as well – I wonder why more do who work with kids and animals. Interesting. The rest of BlogHer really was a lot of fun. Hanging out with so many writers was really inspiring.August 2, 2014 – 1:41 pmReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - Have to admit that I was super jealous of all those pictures of so many people I love having a great time together. 🙂 Sorry that speaker was such an awful person to you. She obviously know nothing about you at all. Hugs!July 31, 2014 – 4:10 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Hugs, Lisa! I wish you’d been there!!! And thanks so much – you’re right – she doesn’t know anything about me and worse, didn’t bother asking. Gah.August 2, 2014 – 1:44 pmReplyCancel

  • Jennifer Lizza - I’m so sorry that happened to you. It sounds like the speaker didn’t really care that she didn’t know you and instead just made giant assumptions and acted like a jerk. I think a blog conference should be about support and knowledge not being shamed in a public forum and made to feel inadequate in some way. You are a fantastic mama! I’m glad you had fun with the other girls. I’m sorry I missed it. (getting to know you all would have been fun) You did a great job with this post and seriously nailed it with “What the fuckity fuck?”July 31, 2014 – 4:42 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I completely agree, Jennifer, that a blog conference should be about support and knowledge. I think it’s a shame that she was such a jerk. I’m sorry you missed it, too. I’d love to have hung out with you. Glad you liked “what the fuckity fuck!” 🙂August 2, 2014 – 1:50 pmReplyCancel

  • Cheryl Nicholl - I think you wrote this with wisdom and strength and I think you should have written about it and I’m glad you did. Though I know it’s impossible for any conference to vet what will be said in the moment- they can and should do a better job of vetting the speakers platforms before they represent any advocacy. You should lead a discussion next year. I’m not kidding.July 31, 2014 – 10:40 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thank you Cheryl! I do believe that they should have done a much better job choosing the speakers. I’d love to lead a discussion but I don’t think I’m “big” enough. I’ve not even been blogging for two years and really don’t know what I’m doing so… but thank you!!!August 2, 2014 – 1:57 pmReplyCancel

  • Real Life Parenting - Wow … my heart rate was elevated just reading about that experience. (Total fucking bitch for the way she handled that. Seriously.) But, as I’ve come to expect, you completely Kristied that whole thing–which is to say that you took a challenge / disappointment / shitty situation and you found a way to turn it around so that it was a fist in the air, championing the good, making a difference moment.

    Don’t doubt yourself and what you’re doing with / for Tucker. YOU know him best and YOU know what’s right for him–and when. Just keep following your heart.

    <3 you!!July 31, 2014 – 11:02 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I agree, Jen!!! Totally. I really appreciate your comment and support because you are awesome and fabulous. Thanks, too, for the encouragement that I know what’s best for/with Tucker. <3 you big time.August 2, 2014 – 1:59 pmReplyCancel

  • Pam - What a b*tch!!! If anything, she made herself look like an insensitive a-hole who clearly felt the need to belittle you in order to elevate herself and I would imagine a room full of bloggers/writers could have seen through her thin veneer immediately… Still, that sucks and you raise some important questions… particularly about protecting your child’s privacy that I think ALL bloggers (not just those dealing with the topic of special needs) should think twice about.

    If this happened to me, you know I’d have about a million amazing snappy comebacks. In my daydreams for the next three months, that is! Good for you for not revealing this person’s identity. No need to send any more traffic to her site!July 31, 2014 – 11:06 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Pam, I know what you mean about having a million snappy comebacks much too late. Isn’t that always the way? Sheesh. The thing is, that I didn’t really get to, is that I wanted to know HOW people had gone more anonymous from being so out there. Like how do I take Finding Ninee from being a bazillion photos of my most beautiful son to no photos? Or photos of the back of his head? Like well. Anyway. THANK YOU. I agree that it’s an issue all bloggers deal with. I’m not sure what the best answer is. It’s SUCH a different world than the one I grew up in, pre-cell-phone, photos had to be film-developed, etc.August 2, 2014 – 8:48 pmReplyCancel

  • Melanie Shebel - I think the woman’s response was way off of what you would expect in a moderator AND it’s none of her business how you raise your son.

    If I had a son with autism or ADHD, I personally wouldn’t want to publicize his name. (This is just me.) You can be an advocate for autism and be an advocate for the privacy of your child’s physical and emotional health. (Not that publicizing your child is bad, I just personally don’t agree with it.)

    Why should you potentially put your son into contact with people who could make a quick Google search for Tucker Smith (or Jones or whatever) and see that he’s autistic and use that information as a weapon? Autism isn’t who Tucker is and he shouldn’t be forever burdened by that label. Privacy is a big thing for me. Hell, I’m pissed that my mom told my boyfriend that when I was 10 I wrote a letter to my cat while I was away on vacation.

    “Grow a pair and publicize your minor son’s disability.” I’m paraphrasing here, but wow! Unbelievable, none of her business, and way out of bounds. I’d worry she’s exploiting her child for her platform. Nevertheless, I would totally complain to BlogHer.July 31, 2014 – 11:57 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Melanie,
      Thank you. I honestly wish I’d have considered the ramifications of so openly talking about Tucker when I started this blog. I don’t think I thought enough about what a blog IS, or Got It, or really even realized that people may one day read it. That was irresponsible and short-sighted of me, and the truth is that I want to know how to go from open and people loving following Tucker’s story, and moms feeling less alone to a place where I can be me while also protecting him. Which is a hard weird thing. The internet. It’s weird, too. Thank you so much for your kind and insightful comment!!August 2, 2014 – 8:57 pmReplyCancel

  • Brittnei - I’m so happy you enjoyed some aspects of the conference. I have been wondering where you’ve been. You’ve been missed. 🙂 I hadn’t seen you on my TToT posts so I wondered if you were ok. So, about this lady…um, I’m very shocked that it sounds like advocacy comes before her own family. She sounds like a parent who is going to make big and become known from something that is going on with her child. I see this happen sometimes with child stars, but didn’t even think it could be the case in this type of situation with a blog! I think your concerns are extremely legitimate! There are plenty of people who think about this and their children are not considered special needs. If you are still self conscious about it at a certain point, I’m sure there are different ways you can still share without really taking pictures of him and maybe even changing the name you use. I see some parents do things like “Mr. T,” etc. I’m sure you will figure it out. I hope some moms who have taken to some of these more private approaches will give you some ideas since you couldn’t find the support from this lady at this conference. 🙁August 1, 2014 – 2:01 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Brittnei, I’ve actually planned to do TToT each week but well. Life and traveling and Tucker’s birthday trip and work. Yeah. Thank you for missing me though – and happy 1 year blog birthday to YOU!!
      I very much hope to figure it out. I’m not really sure what to do about it yet but have faith that the answer will come to me with some guidance and peace.August 3, 2014 – 12:11 amReplyCancel

  • Stephanie - Kristi – there’s not much I can say that hasn’t already been said here. I am angry for you for the way she spoke to you and handled that situation. What a terrible way to speak to anyone, let alone someone opening an honest and necessary line of discussion that she was (supposedly) there to support.

    I’ll be interested to see the response to this amazing post and what you decide to do with/about your privacy concerns. Sounds like the rest of the conference was well worth the travel time, except, of course, McDonalds. My family gave up fast food 3 years ago – I wouldn’t have been able to eat it! Everything else though – totally made me want to be there!! Glad you got to be there and congrats on the VOTY!August 1, 2014 – 10:32 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Aw STEPHANIE!!! I miss you!! I wish you’d been there so much and I thank you for your awesome words here. I’m not sure what to do about the privacy thing, but I think it’s a good one to start thinking about. yeah, McD was nasty. Bleh.August 3, 2014 – 12:13 amReplyCancel

  • Michelle AKA Crumpets and Bollocks - Wow. Ok. A. I’m super jealous Jenny is following you on twitter. I’m going to try to find a dead animal to mail her in hopes she’ll talk to me online some day. B. It’s probably best you didn’t mention the asshat or their blog because I’d probably troll it and so would half the people here. I still am dying to know so I don’t mistake the person for a real human being later. C. You are in the right. I don’t know if mental retardation is an issue with the blogger in question (yeah that’s right, I suspect it), but how do you tell someone to communicate something with a kid they know can’t communicate well yet? That’s like saying, “Michelle, you need to have a talk with your mother in law who doesn’t speak good English yet about her drinking problem.” Yeah, like that will end well. I mean. You’re just right, and it should be painstakingly obvious. D. I lost track of what letter I’m on. E. My advice is at some point, you are probably going to have to keep your blog secret from his friends. Even if you replaced his name with a fake name and didn’t show pictures, middle school kids will know it’s about him. I still think you should advocate special needs, and one way to really cloak who the blog is about would be to get licensed to work with special needs in some way, so then your blog is job related and not family. I don’t know. I just know middle school kids are very mean when it comes to special needs. My nephew on the spectrum is 13, and he homeschooled for the last year because of the bullying. He was sick of being called retarded for his hour in the autism room, and he was sick of girls kicking him in the balls and then telling everyone he hit her. He just couldn’t hang socially at all, and being labeled autism sure as hell didn’t help. None of his friends know I blog, let alone about him sometimes. But I also mention my daughter a lot, and like you, I’m not sure where to draw the line with putting her name and face next to a word like autism. Right now it’s fine, but what happens on the internet actually stays on the internet, forever. It’s really a tough question, and one that really could be pursued for a very long time.August 1, 2014 – 10:58 amReplyCancel

    • Michelle Again - I should clarify… I KNOW your kid is going into Kindergarten next year and not middle school, but we really are looking at middle school years for the privacy thing to really be an issue. At some point, your kid is going to out-grow the other kids in maturity and be able to handle being known as autistic, but until you get there… It helps to take baby steps to that much like learning language and communication. His social skills will be the next uphill battle after you tackle communication, and socially speaking, it doesn’t help to be labeled special needs. I wish kids weren’t so superficial, but they get just as superficial as adults around puberty. BUT on the other hand, even with the label, if you can get by without public meltdowns or any strange behaviors that isn’t too taxing to the human tolerance levels, you might be ok on a social level. And something like this blog, something that contributes to the better good of society, might be helpful to him in that case. People are always attracted to people with passion. You never know. He may grow older with a passion to advocate special needs just like his mother, and if that happens…August 1, 2014 – 11:07 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Michelle. A. You are fucking awesome. B. Jenny will so follow you if you mail her a dead animal. Perhaps, even if you just tweet about one, because I just tweeted and said she was awesome at BHer. She’s likely to unfollow me once she realizes how lame I am. C. UGH to communication when it doesn’t make sense and fuck, to a talk about drinking with a mother in law who doesn’t speak your language – hope that was hypothetical but if not please blog it. D. I forgot the letter too and E. Middle Schoolers suck and I agree. Just not sure how to do it right now – like how do I go from this to that and have not everybody leave (how’s that for some good English grammar sister?) Next I’m gonna say “your awesome” BUT FUCK. No. I can’t ever do that because ick. Am I on F yet???? Thanks, you. <3August 3, 2014 – 12:18 amReplyCancel

  • Quirky Chrissy - That’s horrifying!

    I think that a lot of people were disappointed in the lack of professionalism from several panelists, but this DEFINITELY takes the cake.

    I think you asked an incredibly valid and relevant question, and I would love to hear how other people respond. Personally, I think you can still be an advocate without putting, as you said, “his face on a public website, with the word Autism next to it.”

    You do what you need to do…and let’s hope that next year, the speakers and panelists are more professional!August 1, 2014 – 11:06 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Chrissy. Um, your misunderstanding pretty much sucked too but you are gracious and awesome. Thank you also for thinking I asked the Good Question. I think it was important. We’ll see… me too to next year sistah!August 3, 2014 – 12:20 amReplyCancel

  • Ashley - Oh no she dittn’t! I don’t know who she is but I want to knee her in her privates. I’m sorry you had to experience that. I just don’t understand people who are so ego-inflated that they would dare criticize or chastise another mother. I don’t get it. But I loved your last line, and I hope you are able to put it behind you and know that it had NOTHING to do with you and EVERYTHING to do with her.August 1, 2014 – 5:12 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Ashley,
      MWAH. You rock it. Thank you. I liked my last line too so thank you for reading it. And yeah, I know it had very little to do with me. Sadly, most people’s experiences (including my own) have too much to do with our own feelings. Sigh. XOXOXOXOAugust 3, 2014 – 12:22 amReplyCancel

  • Jennifer Steck - Thank you for the HONEST review, Kristi. I know it’s easy to just add fluffy stuff on these events. I’m sorry for the pain and anger the presenter caused. How insensitive and ignorant can some people be? I’m sure other people in attendance were just as hurt and maybe things will improve because you are willing to step up. I love reading your blog because I know I’ll get the real story. We didn’t get a chance to spend much time together in Baltimore, but I’m hoping we’ll meet again. 🙂August 2, 2014 – 9:20 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Jennifer. I’m really hoping we’ll meet again, too, because you’re awesome. And yeah, it was too bad that the session couldn’t have been more productive when it comes to the important discussions, such as gradually going more anonymous with a blog. Sigh.August 3, 2014 – 11:11 amReplyCancel

  • Ellen Seidman - As someone who adores BlogHer and all the people involved here, for one reason or another, I am so bummed to read this. Actually, more like, I feel sick to my stomach. I have admired you online and so wish I could have been there to meet you in person. I have known Shannon and Jen Lee for years, IRL too. And Kristina. We are all active voices. We all blog with shared goals: To help people better understand out kids. To get people to respect our kids. To make the world more welcoming of our kids, and the adults they will someday be.

    Both you and Shannon share another thing in common, as do many of us: You are both very passionate and outspoken about what each of you have to say. In the process, in our extreme passion, there can be unintentional disrespect given and taken. At times, my passion for my message has ticked off other parents. Even as I write this, I am typing oh-so-gingerly.

    Next year, it would be great for one of the topics at the mini-con to be about divisions within the community. And by community I mean parents of kids with autism, CP, Down syndrome and other special needs, because we face similar challenges. I think there should be a moderator on hand to guide the panel (for this session and ANY session involving multiple speakers). Speakers like to speak…and speak some more! A panel moderator helps keep things moving along. That’s happened in previous years, and would be good to reinstate. Most of all, without sounding too Pollyanna, I hope we can all move on. xoAugust 2, 2014 – 11:20 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Ellen,
      Thank you so much for your comment. As you know, I’m a huge admirer of yours and think that you’re doing amazing things when it comes to raising awareness and acceptance for all of our children. Making the world more welcoming is most definitely the ultimate goal.
      Shannon has now read this, commented, and apologized, saying that she should have asked more questions. I do appreciate that and certainly am willing to give her (and everybody) the benefit of the doubt when it comes to misspeaking or having things come out in a way that is not what we intended. I was not familiar with who she was until the panel so cannot fairly have an opinion about any advocacy or work that she does online but appreciate your insight that we’re all working to the common goal.
      I also agree that a moderated speaker panel would be helpful – and allow the discussions to flow more easily and helpfully, and LOVE your idea about having a sessions be about divisions within the community. I hope that you will lead it, and I most definitely will plan to attend. I REALLY wish I’d gotten to meet you because well, you’re AWESOME. Hopefully, next year!August 3, 2014 – 11:33 amReplyCancel

  • Debra Jenkins - Kristi, I was in the headline writing workshop with you and immediately subscribed to your blog when the workshop ended. I’m now a huge fan! I was in the mini-con too and was shamed myself by Shannon Des Roches Rosa at the beginning of the session, when she asked for self-advocates to raise their hands, then for parents to raise their hands. My friend and I were the only 2 people who had not raised our hands so she asked us “Are you in the wrong room?” No, I explained, I’ve founded a program of arts education for people with special needs and blog about the life lessons I’ve learned from them.” She said “Oh, so you’re a professional then” and I said, “Not exactly…I’m a volunteer who stumbled into this world and have been profoundly…” at which point she cut me off and said, “I think you’re in the wrong room.” I was underwhelmed with her speech the first night, when she told us how uncomfortable she is speaking in front of people. And she started off the mini-con panel by telling us the same thing…why the hell do you agree to speak in front of people if you suck at it so much? I was not expecting the session to consist of 3 panelists telling us their life stories but that’s all we got. Your privacy question was very relevant to me because my 22-year-old son is in recovery from drug addiction and I’ve found many parallels between our journey and the journey of families of people with special needs so I write about those similarities sometimes. My son is old enough to grant his permission for me to write about him but sometimes, when a post about him gets 10,000 views in a couple of hours, he’s a little freaked out. I sat through the session feeling like I didn’t belong and should leave, because of her comment to me and thought that everyone in the room was being stand-offish to me because I shouldn’t have been there. Now that I’ve read through this thread, I know that the negative atmosphere in the room was because the panelists were ill-prepared and unqualified to lead a group of intelligent women in an open discussion about issues that are important to us and our work as advocates for people with special needs. I may not be a parent, but I volunteer my life to serve over 500 children and adults with special needs in the program I created yet I left that session feeling like an asshole who just creeped in on a private party I wasn’t invited to. Thank you for showing me that I’m not the one who acted like an asshole – the panelists are.August 2, 2014 – 3:01 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Hi Debra,
      I definitely remember you and think the work you’re doing for the special needs community is admirable and fabulous. I’m so sorry your experience in the mini-con was crappy as well. Such a bummer because it really did have potential to be amazingly fabulous and productive. Please know that I do not think you’re an asshole – in fact, I think the complete opposite and love your work.
      From what I understand, most of the attendees in that session left it feeling disappointed. Ellen (Love that Max) mentioned that last year, there was a moderator for the speakers who kept things moving along, and I think that approach would work much better. I hope that BlogHer will listen to people’s feedback and do something better and more organized for next year. Also, I’m not sure whether you saw it, but in the Facebook comments (up top), Shannon apologized to both of us. I appreciate that – I’m sure reading this and everybody’s comments was upsetting (and hopefully eye-opening) to her.August 3, 2014 – 12:10 pmReplyCancel

      • Debra Jenkins - I just sent you an email because it was too long to put in the comments. Thank you so much for taking the time to reply!August 3, 2014 – 3:20 pmReplyCancel

  • Emily @ Words I Wheel By - I am SHOCKED by the insensitive response you received…except part of me actually isn’t that shocked, because some parents of kids with disabilities take things WAY too far on the Internet. (Not sure if you’re familiar with the NPR photo controversy with a photo of a 16 year old disabled young man in nothing but an undergarment, but this brings that to mind.) Thank you so much for considering the value of your son’s privacy, and please continue to do what you do!August 2, 2014 – 9:05 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Emily,
      Thanks so much for your comment. I’m actually not familiar with the photo of the young man in an undergarment but sadly, there is too much of that out there and parents really need to think about being more responsible to their kids).August 3, 2014 – 12:19 pmReplyCancel

  • My Inner Chick - LOooooVE the photo!
    Looooove that you were one of the VOICES)) of the year.
    DESPiiiiiiISE the so-called-expert on Autism.
    She’s a TOTAL ASSHOLE & should not be able to speak in PUBLIC.

    xx love from MN.August 2, 2014 – 11:09 pmReplyCancel

  • Sandy Ramsey - Kristi, I have been waiting all week to sit down and read this post once I saw the title. Everyone looks so happy in the photos and it must have been really cool to meet so many people IRL! It makes me wish I could have been there. I do have to say though…that is one crazy tongue ya got there ;)!!
    I’m sorry that you had such a shitty experience with that moderator. She can’t possibly know anything about you if she had to suggest you grow a thicker skin and advocate. Jerk. Good for you for handling it well even though I know you had to have been fuming.
    You are really doing amazing things and you deserve every piece of recognition you get, my friend. Keep on keepin’ on!August 3, 2014 – 10:33 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Wait what? A crazy tongue?? And sweets. I was really sad and sad and disappointed, but the special needs community has been awesome in reaching out. Also, thank you. I don’t feel like I’m doing amazing things but I guess that doing anything to make this world better for Tucker is different enough so thank you. YOU are doing amazing things and holyfuck when are you going to write an Our Land??/August 6, 2014 – 11:29 pmReplyCancel

  • Jolene Philo - What an interesting peek into a big blogging conference. For what it’s worth, I’m very careful about guarding my family’s privacy online. One day your kids will be adults, and as the parent of adult children, I can tell you that they will appreciate all you do to keep their lives private. Thanks for adding your post to the Different Dream Tuesday link share.August 7, 2014 – 8:09 pmReplyCancel

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There’s this pretty cool tagging exercise going around in which writers talk about why they do what they do, and share their writing processes. It’s my turn! Ok fine, it was my turn a while ago but we had Important Life things going on, such as Tucker’s Preschool Graduation, which included out-of-town guests, a rockin’ party, and a […]

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  • NJ @ A Cookie Before Dinner - I am so glad you did this! I tagged Alison and it is fun to see this travel!

    I end up sending myself a lot of voice messages when inspiration strikes. It took a bit of time, but my idea bank is over flowing at this point. It’s nice not to struggle for content anymore. Now, I struggle for time to write it instead.July 18, 2014 – 4:27 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I’m glad I did it, too, NJ! I didn’t realize that you’d tagged Alison so really I should thank you because she then tagged me! I like the idea of a voice mail message to myself. So often, the emails to myself are too cryptic and I can’t remember what I meant to say. And yeah, I hear you on finding the time to write, too…July 18, 2014 – 4:59 pmReplyCancel

  • Emily - First, I am completely honored about what you said about me. I’m not just saying that. No one has ever said I’m good at life before and that really means a lot to me!! And I heart you huge right back! Second, I laughed OUT LOUD (for real) at your line, “I’m working on not being an asshole.” That just made my day so thank you. And third, oh what would I do without your pictures? The way you depicted your writing process was just perfect and so YOU.:) BTW, I didn’t promote this post too much (it was published on Brain Child earlier this week), but I’ll give you a link here because I kind of think it ties in to the Our Land series. I’m not saying you should publish it, but I wrote about this little girl because she helped me see things in perspective even more than having my own son with medical issues. Here’s the link: http://www.brainchildmag.com/2014/07/ava-this-ones-for-you/July 18, 2014 – 4:33 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Emily, I love adore love huge love your Brain Child piece. Wow. Heartbreaking and heartwarming and I’d LOVE to run it on Our Land. And what I said about you is absolutely true – I think you rock at life. BTW, was getting in Brain Child hard? I really want to be there (although I haven’t written anything for them or anything). I just want to be in BC. Like the cool kids.July 18, 2014 – 5:19 pmReplyCancel

      • Emily - Like I said before, of course you can run it on Our Land – I’d be honored (again) as always….As for Brain Child, I guess it didn’t seem that hard because it was the only piece I ever submitted to them. I suppose I thought it “fit” for their publication and alas, they agreed. Even though they say they pay, they didn’t. They only pay if you’re in the print version but they said this would be a good stepping stone for me to get in there. Meanwhile, I can’t think of anything else to write for them at the moment so oh well. But in all seriousness, you’d have no trouble at all writing something for them – they’d totally accept something of yours. I personally guarantee it! 🙂July 18, 2014 – 5:32 pmReplyCancel

        • Kristi Campbell - YAY thanks and of course anybody trolling these comments STOP READING NOW OR ABOVE and read Emily’s post on Our Land instead!?!?!? 😀
          I have no idea what to write for them. I think it’s the name “Brain Child” that makes me want to say I’m published there. Weird or whatever true.July 18, 2014 – 11:59 pmReplyCancel

  • Marcia @ Menopausal Mother - OMG I had no idea you were tagged so many times for this! I can see why—because you are so damn good! Thank you for the awesome shout out. You absolutely ROCKED this tag game and I am DYIING LAUGHING over your last 2 drawings about trying to be creative then switching over to Facebook…sooooo me! Love you, Lady! <3July 18, 2014 – 4:43 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - HAHA to switching over to Facebook Marcia! Thank you so very much for tagging me, too. I appreciate it and had a blast writing this!July 18, 2014 – 5:20 pmReplyCancel

      • Izabella - I really enjoyed reading about your journey to find writing inspiration It is so relatable how life’s everyday moments can spark creativity in unexpected ways Your reflections remind me to embrace those little inspirations and let them guide the process Thank you for sharing this encouraging perspectiveNovember 7, 2024 – 4:30 pmReplyCancel

  • Joan Stommen - I was tagged awhile back and freaked out cause there was a deadline! I like your approach better….getting around to it…or not! The line I love best here is “I’m inspired by lightness and darkness, both inside and outside myself.” What a beautiful way to express what it means being a writer! This was a fun piece to read…you use humor and honesty really well!July 18, 2014 – 4:44 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks so much, Joan! In all honesty, I do better with a deadline because, as you can see, I just wait and wait to post when there’s no pressure. I think the lightness and darkness in and outside of ourselves is something that all writers can relate to. I’m glad you did.July 18, 2014 – 6:22 pmReplyCancel

  • Janine Huldie - You know I love you so very much and I thoroughly enjoyed this deeper look into how you think and how true wheel spin to produce such awesome writing and pure genius here all the time. To all those that tagged you thank you to them, becaus I seriously can’t believe you hadn’t already done this blog tour slr eady, but still so glad you did, because like I said I very much enjoyed your answers here 🙂July 18, 2014 – 4:52 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Janine, happy SITS day!!! I can’t believe I haven’t done it until now, either and yeah, no genius here at all but thanks for pretending that there is!!!July 19, 2014 – 12:08 amReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - LOL to #4. That’s how I’m feeling but today I’m actually getting around to reading some posts. And I ACTUALLY closed facebook so I don’t hear any bings and bongs of people responding. I’m alone for three and a half more days. Do you think I could write a book in that time? Sure would be nice.July 18, 2014 – 5:00 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I get around (usually mostly sometimes almost always sometimes) to reading the posts. It’s the whole Facebook BLEEPS and BLOOPS while trying to be inspired. And looking at the clock because it’s usually like around now (12:13am) or later.
      And dude! YES. You ahve 3 1/2 days? You could totally get a draft at least? Um, maybe. Ugh. Enjoy the silence, no matter whether you do or not. Silence is awesome, even when it’s not. Ok it’s not awesome when it’s not because night time should mean snores and checking on wee ones and all that… but those moments BEFORE bed? DUDE! you could totally get some 1/2-drafts done? Or at least catch up on non-kid friendly TV 😉July 19, 2014 – 12:15 amReplyCancel

  • yvonne - Ha, ha Kiristi – your writing process is a lot like mine! Both the “Facebook is fun” part and the getting ideas in the toilet. Or out walking or wherever.
    I really enjoyed learning more about your work and everything.
    And since I’m in a hotel with only 30 minutes of wifi, this comment better be short! Thanks for the nice things you said about me, and for introducing those awesome bloggers – I will check out those I don’t know soon. (When I have more than 30 minutes!)July 18, 2014 – 5:20 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Yvonne,
      YAY to having a no writing process, and doing so when inspired!!! Whoot! 30 minutes left of wifi and you commenting is the biggest compliment ever – I hope the rest of your trip is amazing. And I think you are awesome big time. Always. And will forever thank you for turning me onto the difference between self esteem and self compassion because OMG thank you. You so rock.July 19, 2014 – 1:15 amReplyCancel

  • Considerer - Um so now you have to teach me to personing, wise one…

    I think I probably maybe suck at that sometimes. But perhaps everyone does, but I’d like to be better at it.

    I like your not-a-process historical gathering of things all together in one place that I kind of knew already and am just happy when you write.

    I still think you’re better when you’re under pressure, because most of the pieces I fall hard for, you complain that you did it in a rush, in 20 minutes.

    Mostly I like you, and your writing is an added bonus 🙂July 18, 2014 – 5:23 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I’d be more than happy to teach you the personing thing, once I finalize it, which is soon, I think (stay tuned). I suspect you’ve already got it though and know when you’re not.
      I am better under pressure. Always. Sadly and happily. And none, recently. Sigh. I like you, too, Lizzi. and thank you for liking me.July 19, 2014 – 1:25 amReplyCancel

      • Considerer - How long does it take? I’m a bit fascinated now. Do you feel better? How might I already got it? *confused*

        You are good under pressure. Very good. But pressure will happen and you’ll write again 🙂 YAY LIKE!July 19, 2014 – 10:25 amReplyCancel

        • Kristi Campbell - It varies as far as how long it will take. You’re on the right track though. And wait. The pressure comment. Um, is that your not-so-subtle way of saying you don’t like the stuff I write when not under pressure?July 19, 2014 – 11:47 amReplyCancel

          • Considerer - Ack, well it’s reassuring to know I might be on the right track. We’ll see when you let me in on the big secret 🙂

            Umno. I like what you write ALWAYS, I just fall in love with the stuff you write under pressure. It *gets* me right in the middle of my soul…July 19, 2014 – 12:59 pm

  • Elizabeth - What a great idea and terrific post. Very enjoyable. I am looking forward to checking out all the other blogs. Thank you!July 18, 2014 – 5:46 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - So happy you enjoyed it, Elizabeth!!! Considerer yourself tagged, if you want to play! I always hesitate to tag people because I’m awful at finishing these things but please play if you’re interested!July 19, 2014 – 1:43 amReplyCancel

      • Elizabeth - Thank you! Do I get three years to do it? Lol! 😉July 19, 2014 – 3:00 pmReplyCancel

        • Kristi Campbell - Yes, take all the time you want to Elizabeth!! It took me a LONGGG time 😉July 19, 2014 – 3:36 pmReplyCancel

  • Dana - I feel like crap now, because I was tagged and still haven’t written. Although only one person tagged me, so I still have time, right? I love your writing process; it’s working well for you! Five books? Wow. I’ll be first in line when you publish!July 18, 2014 – 6:02 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Dana, don’t feel like crap – I think Allison tagged me in May or something. I don’t even know because I suck at this stuff so badly. Also consider yourself tagged by moi. FIVE BOOKS that are sitting there. Unwritten and unfinished and just lying there as ideas. GAH. And I’ll hold you to that, if I ever get off my fatass and publish, m’kay?July 19, 2014 – 1:44 amReplyCancel

  • Echo - Thank you for tagging me, although I don’t think I have a writing process, like, at all! We’ll see how this turns out though! Your illustrations always crack me up!July 18, 2014 – 6:34 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Well duh then do it like I did and say you don’t have one because hello I have no writing process. I mean real people I guess do but whatever to them and you’re welcome and I can’t wait to read what you write. About writing. Or whatever.July 19, 2014 – 1:46 amReplyCancel

  • Mike - This was great, Kristi! I send myself email notes ALL OF THE TIME! Probably bordering on OCD ha, ha 🙂 I think your “personing” is absolutely spectacular! Not to mention your other gazillion wonderful qualities. I was most interested in #4 and I contemplated my own answer. I don’t have a process either per se. I like to write about real life experiences and often I use my photography as a foundation to write around. If that makes sense 🙂 You know I love your cartoon drawings always! Have a wonderful, safe weekend 🙂July 18, 2014 – 7:18 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Mike! I’m glad I’m not alone in sending myself email notes. It’s quick and easy but sometimes I have no idea what I was talking about when I read them later. And your photography is awesome so I love that you use it as a base for writing.July 19, 2014 – 1:27 pmReplyCancel

  • Lana - I think you’re amazing, and the fact that you were tagged by FIVE people is additional proof. Your blog is one of my favorites, and it was so fun to read more about you. Have a great weekend!July 18, 2014 – 7:31 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Lana, thank you so much – I love your blog right back! And happy birthday again to your cool sweet Grandma. I hope your weekend is fabulous!July 19, 2014 – 1:30 pmReplyCancel

  • Rea - We are so much alike in our writing process. Can’t describe it enough because really, you’ve described it really well especially the “Facebook is fun” part and “I really need to write” part. HAHA. I think that you write about interesting things. All the best to you and your upcoming book! 😉July 18, 2014 – 7:54 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - HAHAH to Facebook is fun, Rea. It really is a distraction and so easy to waste time there in those “I should write something” moments!! Thanks so much!July 19, 2014 – 1:51 pmReplyCancel

  • Michele - LOVE this post, Kristi — the list of other writers to check out, the pictures, the inspiration found while sitting on the toilet… 🙂 Truly, the story of your evolution as a writer and blogger is inspiring to this relative newbie blogger a and the idea of making dark moments lighter is beautiful.July 18, 2014 – 8:00 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Michele, you’re the bombdiggity! And here’s to making the darker moments lighter through our writing. Also? You may be a relative newbie blogger but you’re awesome and fabulous and I love your blog and you and you’re already doing big beautiful things with your words.July 19, 2014 – 1:52 pmReplyCancel

  • Shay from Trashy Blog - I am just like you in that I have paper and pen with me EVERYWHERE. I can’t remember a time that I haven’t. I call all of the different versions “my little Harriet the Spy writing notebook.” I try to hide it because when I get caught whipping it out (that’s what she said), my family and friends inevitably go, “Hey! What are you writing down…are you going to write about me??” The level of anxiety/excitement depends on the person to whom I’m talking. 🙂 And wow–you’re a great speaker! I’d have been so nervous I would have shat myself right up there on stage. I loved hearing your story!July 19, 2014 – 2:59 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Paper and pen everywhere and Harriet the Spy because fucking DUH!!! HAHAHA to them knowing you’re whipping it out. I got totally busted taking a photo of a guy at work by another sales guy so I never used the pic (even though they don’t even know I blog) because I HAD TO HAD to remember the moment. One of these days (when I’m more sure for real none of them read the blog), I’ll haveta post about it. LOVING your shorts by the way, although I often read them on my phone (sorry).
      And dude, my hands were shaking like a crack whore on um, I dunno. rehab?July 19, 2014 – 11:05 pmReplyCancel

  • Tamara - I love that you did this. I did it awhile ago and it’s fun to watch it travel.
    I think I get inspiration the way you do, but never on the toilet, for some reason!
    I write whole posts in my head while staring at walls. Walls!
    I work hard at not being an asshole. Mostly it works, save for like two people on this earth.July 20, 2014 – 8:26 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I saw it a while ago as well and um, well, yeah, am doing it now so yay, right? Walls are good for posts. Here’s to not being an asshole, or at least working on not being one!!July 20, 2014 – 11:47 pmReplyCancel

  • Sarah @ LeftBrainBuddha - Martin Luther, according to legend, attained his insight on the doctrine of justification by faith while “in the privy,” so you’re in good company 🙂July 20, 2014 – 9:26 amReplyCancel

  • K - Ha! I love what you said about looking back at your draft notes and being all “WTF was I thinking about”…sometimes the best ideas arise from that though!

    And I love that you write what you do…I haven’t been here nearly as much as I’ve wanted to lately but your words never fail to put a smile on my face…I still think you should publish your memoir someday! And I didn’t know you liked to write novels as well…that’s awesome!!

    xoJuly 20, 2014 – 12:04 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - K – so true though. Some of the very best ideas do come from not knowing what we wanted to talk about. And dude. You’re doing the good good thing – getting a degree and being brilliant and amazing. Also, holy crap!!! You’re going to be a junior in September right? OMG I feel so old. 😉
      well the novels… they’re simpering b/c I’m not paying any attention to them. Maybe one of these days. Maybe we should write one together.July 20, 2014 – 11:50 pmReplyCancel

  • Kelly L McKenzie - “I really should be writing something … Facebook is fun.” Well I cannot stress enough how good this makes me feel. There is someone out there who is behaving in the same manner as me. God but that feels good. Oh boy. Cannot tell you how my mind wanders as I plop into my chair and so professionally face the keys …

    Thank you. When I next bang out a post I shall think of you …July 20, 2014 – 9:03 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - UGH I really should be writing something now but whatever, WINE is fun too right? I’m so happy that my flakiness (and being human) makes you feel more human because DUH facebook IS fun. oh and yeah. the mind wandering. Wait, what? What was I saying? Writing is fun? Oh. Jus got a FB notification.July 20, 2014 – 11:52 pmReplyCancel

  • Sandy Ramsey - Kristi, you are the shit!

    That is all.July 20, 2014 – 10:06 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Well then, I guess that’s it. Should I say Hhahahah or thank you? Guessing thank you so um yeah. The shit 😀 GRINJuly 20, 2014 – 11:53 pmReplyCancel

      • Sandy Ramsey - I meant it in the best possible way. The pun never occurred to me…until now.July 21, 2014 – 7:26 amReplyCancel

  • Chris Carter - Ah, I love this Kristi!!! It really is those little moments that inspire that fire within that is lit by such a small flame… amazing how that happens, isn’t it?

    I love everything about this post. And everything about you.

    Keep working on that book. I too, want to write one… been thinking and praying on it for some time now.

    But priorities are mumbled jumbled… I wish I could go sit in some cottage for a month, ya know?

    In time, for you…

    And hopefully for me too.July 21, 2014 – 11:32 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - It’s so true, Chris! The little moments.
      I know what you mean about wishing for a cottage for a month – that would help. We’ll get there though. We WILL.July 28, 2014 – 5:47 pmReplyCancel

  • Misty - don’t know what kind of books you’re writing, but know what you should write! you should write and illustrate a children’s book! that way kindergarteners only have to learn one name and will meet the standard for identifying the author and illustrator! i looked, once, for a social story about special needs that i could give to patty’s class. you would write an awesome-sauce special needs social story!July 23, 2014 – 5:37 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Misty,
      I’m not really writing anything but have a fiction novel started, a memoir, a special needs life thing, and definitely want to do a children’s book!! Thanks for the idea of making it a social story about special needs!July 28, 2014 – 6:07 pmReplyCancel

  • Kim - This is all around awesome! I love that you’re like so many of us out there when it comes to writing and ideas. “Uhh, what should I write about? Shit. I don’t know!” I’m a fly by the seat of my pants kind of girl so I get it.July 28, 2014 – 5:19 pmReplyCancel

  • Linda Atwell - Out One Ear - Obviously, I need to spend more time on the toilet! Of course I enjoyed every part of this, like I love every word you write. I guess I read this to see what inspires you. Right now I think the internet and blogging can sure suck a lot of time out of my day. When I do write, I’m glad and often feel like doing a happy dance. So as much as I enjoy writing and getting stuff actually down on paper, I dread the time my butt has be in the chair instead of hiking (or traveling) or whatever else I want to do that day.

    BTW, this is off this subject, but I read a comment your husband left–possibly when you won your award or did your reading. Anyway it was something about you being the best mom in the world (in his opinion) and it touched my heart (AGAIN). My eyes welled up and and I had to get a Kleenex. We sure are lucky in the husband arena.August 2, 2014 – 2:03 amReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ The Meaning of Me - Can’t believe I missed this one – saw you in the Literacy Musings linkup. *waves hello* XOJune 16, 2015 – 10:42 amReplyCancel

Today’s Our Land is from a new-to-me special needs advocate, Geralyn. Her post today is about raising empathy and wonder, finding solutions to challenges, and the magical powers of horses. I hope you like it as much as I do.  Hippo Therapy for Sensory Processing Disorder  I always knew I wanted to be a mother. But […]

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  • Mike - This was an absolutely wonderful guest post, Geralyn, and thank you for sharing her and Delaney with us, Kristi! I loved so many parts about this and it started with just the need to listen to Delaney. I find that to be true with all people on all levels. And it’s magnified times infinity with special needs children. This reminded me on several levels of one of my favorite movies “The Horse Whisperer.” Geralyn, that’s great that you pay it forward and what an awesome change for you to change jobs. You are so right…the miracle will never grow old. Sweet little Delaney, please always know you are loved by so many and we are so very proud of you!! There are no boundaries as to what you will accomplish our young hero!:)July 16, 2014 – 12:33 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I think you’re so right, Mike that everybody just needs to be heard and Delaney is awesome!July 17, 2014 – 11:59 amReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth - What a great experience! Thank you for sharing this terrific story.July 16, 2014 – 2:02 pmReplyCancel

  • Tamara - One of my good friends is a therapist who uses equine therapy in her practice too. So amazing to hear about.
    I grew up as a horse person, but I sort of outgrew it over the years. My mom has horses so I get my fix occasionally.
    And one of my best friends’ kids has SPD. He leads a very fulfilling life but his mom tells us what it’s like for us sometimes. I remember that he had trouble with the sound my camera makes when I was taking photos of him. However, I didn’t have to stop. He knew how to make himself feel better without me stopping.July 16, 2014 – 3:36 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - That’s so cool that you have a good friend who uses equine therapy! I grew up as a horse person, too, but don’t really ride often any longer. And yay for your friend’s son knowing how to make himself feel better on his own – that’s big.July 17, 2014 – 12:01 pmReplyCancel

  • Michelle @ A Dish of Daily Life - I love this! I never would have thought of equine therapy but it makes total sense…animals are wonderful therapy. It’s been proven many times over!July 17, 2014 – 3:32 pmReplyCancel

  • Shay from Trashy Blog - This post is beautiful. We learn so much from our kids!July 18, 2014 – 3:11 pmReplyCancel

  • K - So awesome!! I love that Delaney has gotten so much joy from her horses, and that they have been so beneficial for her…I did hippotherapy for a few years when I was her age, and I loved it too! I did it mostly to improve my balance, but you’re right — it’s spiritually and emotionally grounding as well. 🙂 Beautiful post, thank you for sharing!July 20, 2014 – 11:54 amReplyCancel

  • Misty - oh my, it is so nice to read a story about another mom who felt compelled to go back to school and earn a degree in education! patty loves horses but i haven’t given much thought to riding therapy. i’ll have to see if there is a program near by!July 25, 2014 – 6:16 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Sorry I’m just seeing this but yay to horses and school. Please consider going back!!!August 5, 2014 – 12:50 amReplyCancel

  • Marissa Divito - Wow I loved reading this. I am currently an OT student who grew up in a world of horses but have interested in combining my passion of working with kids who have SPD and using horse as a tool in therapy.June 24, 2022 – 9:47 amReplyCancel

  • Hot Horse - Your insightful exploration of equine therapy for sensory processing disorder (SPD) sheds light on the transformative impact horses can have on individuals facing sensory challenges. In the context of working with SPD, have you considered discussing strategies for managing a hot horse during equine therapy sessions? While not covered in your post, incorporating insights into handling high-energy or excitable horses may enhance the effectiveness of equine therapy for individuals with sensory processing difficulties. Your commitment to sharing the benefits of equine therapy is commendable, and your thoughtful examination contributes to a more comprehensive understanding of how horses can positively influence those with sensory needs. Thank you for providing valuable insights into this therapeutic alliance between horses and individuals navigating sensory processing disorder.November 27, 2023 – 11:30 pmReplyCancel

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